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Old 03-03-2012, 09:21 PM   #1 (permalink)
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For wives/gf's that leave their men, does it ever dawn on them in the future that they may have made a mistake and actually miss him and come back? Or are the majority too proud to admit their wrongdoing and just remain single or make due with the next guy?
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my exw is trying.
unfortunately my exgf didnt.
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Why would you want them back?
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Old 03-04-2012, 11:08 AM   #4 (permalink)
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I don't have a lot of experience. My wife checked out of my marriage quite a few years ago. She's not coming back. In my three years or so on these sites, I have RARELY seen a wife come back. I'd give it up and move on if I were you.
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Once my husbands ex wife found out we were engaged, she tried her hardest to win him back. Obviously it didn't work.

I'm grateful that their marriage didn't work out, he's the most kindest man I've ever met. Apparently she promised him children and changed her mind once she married him. I guess she wasn't nice to him either on a day to day basis. A few months after their divorce, we met and have had 13 wonderful years together(married 12). His ex even said she wanted a child with him and changed her mind. Luckily, he was completely over her and in love with me.
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Old 03-04-2012, 06:25 PM   #6 (permalink)
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My wife came back after 4 months away this weekend. We still need to work on it, but there is hope. Patience and seeking outside help is the key.
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Some do and some don't. Depends on the individual. Same thing with men.
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i pray to god mine don't try.
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i pray to god mine don't try.
that doesnt work. :/
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Old 03-04-2012, 11:42 PM   #10 (permalink)
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Most of the time they want to come back when they realize what they lost..

Unfortunately..most of the time..for those of us that loved them..it's a little too late.
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I was reading how a woman's dog returned after 63 days wandering in the Nevada desert after it ran away from a car crash that killed the woman's husband and severely injured her. So, yeah.
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For wives/gf's that leave their men, does it ever dawn on them in the future that they may have made a mistake and actually miss him and come back? Or are the majority too proud to admit their wrongdoing and just remain single or make due with the next guy?
I don't know about the majority of them, but in my case my (now) wife came back after having left me. She left me before we were married after we had dated for several years. She told me she no longer loved me and the whole nine yards, then unleashed her female friends and even some of my friends to attack me and run me down for being bad in some unexplained way. I had to do some work to get her back, but none of that mattered and she turned me down with each attempt. Eventually she came back on her own and admitted she'd made a big mistake leaving me. She'll even bring it up out of the blue now, years after all this and a generally good marriage, to tell me how sorry she is. Who knows how people think or why wives and girlfriends sometimes leave us? I don't get it. She was never able to give me answers and I never really understood if she wanted other men or just to be free. But she didn't date or sleep around during that time apart so who knows, I guess she thought freedom was better until she tried it. But yes, she's said herself that any man she would have ended up with would have been just a sad imitation of what we had/have together, and I'm glad she changed her mind.
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Old 03-05-2012, 01:10 PM   #13 (permalink)
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My wife came back after I found out about her EA, I kicked her out actually and let her come back,I'm glad I did
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Old 03-05-2012, 02:17 PM   #14 (permalink)
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I guess for most people, there will be thoughts once in a while that we might have made a mistake leaving someone. It is normal for humans to have doubts, even when it was the right decision to leave.
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I guess for most people, there will be thoughts once in a while that we might have made a mistake leaving someone. It is normal for humans to have doubts, even when it was the right decision to leave.
I think the doubts go both ways. For those who stay and those who leave.

I read a study done by the Univ of CHicago that showed of 600 unhappy married couples, 5 years later, of those who stayed married - 80% were happier and of those who divorced 19% claimed to be happier.
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