Re: The chronically sarcastic husband
How are things going with your husband now? I hope he has changed. There is no reason for anyone to be treated the way he has treated you. You are his wife and for him to act like you're a thorn in his side is totally unacceptable.
I can relate somewhat because my husband has serious arrogance and "tone of voice" issues. I'm starting to think he is missing the social skills gene because he truly doesn't seem to understand why certain things are/are not acceptable.
For example, the other day I slipped in our kitchen and hit my knee on the baby gate that closes off one side of the kitchen. The gate is there for our dogs who hang out in the kitchen when we are gone. His reaction was to heave a big sigh because he hates it when he has to fix the gate. As I'm limping back through the kitchen, he says nothing to me.
I let him know that I was NOT happy about his not asking me if I was ok and only caring about the hassle of putting the gate back up. He said to me "Well, if you were hurt, I figured you would have told me." He doesn't understand AT ALL that it's appropriate to ask someone who has injured themselves if they are ok. It's normal behavior to do so.
I have many other examples. It's just so difficult. We have talked about it many, many times and he has acknowledged the behavior and agreed to change, but it never lasts. After four years of marriage, I'm ready to throw in the towel. I'm tired of his sarcasm and his lack of attention to my emotional needs.
Tonight, I asked him if he was going to take the vegetables we got for his friend over to his friend's house and his response "Well, not right now I'm not..." Any other person would have said "I'm planning on dropping them off tomorrow" or what have you, but not my husband.
Living with him is almost like some kind of weird Twilight Zone episode. When I am out in the world at work or at school, people respond normally to inquiries, they ask how I'm doing...I do the same. With my husband, it's the total opposite. I'm tired of trying to explain appropriate behavior to him. I'm done with it.
Thanks for listening.