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Old 02-16-2009, 06:36 AM   #1 (permalink)
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He is getting on my last nerve. I'm a student, a mother (from another relationship), unemployed and My husband is always making cutting remarks (especially in front of other people).

He would says things like:

When he had roommates: "When they used to live here, the house was spotless and dinner was made every night."

On Valentine's Day (in front of about 6-7 people): "Are you paying for your dinner? Where is all of your money?"

When he bought groceries the day his houseguest arrived, he said this right in front of everyone: "This is the last time I'm buying groceries, I'm tired of buying groceries, next time YOU are buying them."

The top rack of our dishwasher keeps coming undone (without much force), 2 days ago it came loose again as i was putting the dishes in, he and or houseguest came home and he saw what happened. "What did you do to that dishwasher now?"

Finally, anything that goes wrong in the house "Why did you do that for?"

I used to be able to handle this like a champ but lately, I've been "shutting down" and becoming non-responsive and shrug it off. But inside, I am really hurt and feel like crying and am afraid even to talk to him. He is constantly throwing cutting remarks.

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Old 02-16-2009, 10:03 AM   #2 (permalink)
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So let's here the other side of it...
How have you been treating him for the past 12 months?
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And then does he say "oh I'm just kidding"
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So let's here the other side of it...
How have you been treating him for the past 12 months?
I don't do sarcasm
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And then does he say "oh I'm just kidding"
Yep, then accuses me of not having a sense of humor.

I'll laugh when something is funny, but he does this all the time and sometimes I can't tell if he is just joking around or is being serious.
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I don't do sarcasm
I think you just did...

But seriously... what I meant was, have you been treating him badly at all. Does he have any complaints of his own that mirror yours?
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Yep, then accuses me of not having a sense of humor.

I'll laugh when something is funny, but he does this all the time and sometimes I can't tell if he is just joking around or is being serious.

OMG are we married to the same man. If I've heart it once I've heard it a thousand times "you have no sense of humor"
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I think you just did...

But seriously... what I meant was, have you been treating him badly at all. Does he have any complaints of his own that mirror yours?
I know this is not directed at me since it's not my post but I know when he's not getting enough, it gets worse.

How freaking childish.

I don't wanna give any becaue I feel belittled.

How's that for a chicken and egg situation!
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How's that for a chicken and egg situation!
You said it
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lol

I treat him like a king, the house is tidy, he gets home his spot on the sofa is always ready for him. I'll cook a meal if there is something to cook.
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lol

I treat him like a king, the house is tidy, he gets home his spot on the sofa is always ready for him. I'll cook a meal if there is something to cook.
Same here. My husband never had it so good.

I feel like a *^%$& maid sometimes.
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I'm just damn tired of the sarcasm and I'm tired of being a housewife. I used to work all the time, now that we live in this small town jobs are really hard to get. I've sent out about 6 resumes this moth so far and I'm dying to get the hell out of this house.

I want to be able to contribute a lot more money to this house but it is challenging. I only make a pittance being a student. (I'm studying computer programming).
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OK, I'll come to the point... he sounds like he is sexually frustrated, but hasn't got the guts to spell it out.
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Same here. My husband never had it so good.

I feel like a *^%$& maid sometimes.

Exactly, he just leaves his mess where it is and I have to clean it up constantly. Yeah sometimes I wont but that's because I may have a heavy assignment due or I'm too damn tired.

I feel bad about my situation and it makes me feel powerless. Once we went out and somebody overheard the way he talked to me and was gonna take him outside.
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OK, I'll come to the point... he sounds like he is sexually frustrated, but hasn't got the guts to spell it out.
He gets sex all the time, that department is no problem at all. Sometimes he doesn't give it up enough.
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