02-16-2009, 03:59 PM
Join Date: Feb 2009
| | Making Real Progress
This is my first post here, so let me share a little about myself and my marriage. I am 26 and my wife is 24. We have been married about a year and a half. Throughout this time we have had constant ups and downs - petty bickering, complacency, bad communication. I think a lot of this comes back to my communication and emotional intelligence, or lack there of.
I can tend to be a bit controlling with unrealistic expectations, and even in situations where I think its reasonable to be upset, I approach things in such a way that we fight about me being upset and not what I am upset about.
I really love my wife. She is the sweetest and most considerate person I have ever known. Her love is unconditional and she pushes me to be a better person.
My question is how do you make real progress with your communication skills and the way you express yourself. We will have a great period of time where we get closer and happier and then I will do something stupid to mess things up. Its like the implication of my comments do not run through my head before I open my mouth.
I have been trying to be a better partner, but it really does not seem to be enough. How do I work towards being a better person and make it stick?
I don't want to lose my marriage. Help!