itgetsbetter

It's funny how subjective a woman's virginity is. Interesting.

I don't think a woman who gave a guy head for 30 seconds lost her virginity, no.

Know_Buddy

lol, i thought of that also, right after i posted.

i dont let anyone in my brain anymore.

bondraju

its your thought...i don't think so...go and ask bill clinton

bondraju

Actually sir i am from india..in this country virginity matters..i know that my future hubby is open minded but still i wanna give him my everything...and fortunately he is also a 25 yr old virgin...

itgetsbetter

I'm a girl lol I understand it matters to you. I do think you're a virgin. I'm glad he is too since it matters so much to you both. Best wishes

bondraju

hello...today i went out with my future hubby...I knew the meaning of love..he told me three things
1. "Respect Everyone whether he/she is younger or elder than you"
2. "Truth is the most important thing in life"
3. "Have faith in yourself and god"

and i was so overwhelmed that i told the things about my past..after hearing he told "Is this really a big fault ?...Its nothing..you are pure.."and then told those three magical words and then hugged me in front of everyone..today i am very happy

2nd_t!me iz_best

thats all that matters, how you and he sees you.

bondraju

hey friends thanks a lot a lot a lot a lot a lot a lot...i am very glad today..i wanna show his photo to all of you...

CLucas976

you know, by todays american standards, I might as well call myself a virgin.

I married the second guy I slept with. most people now a days barely remember the second person they had sex with, and i still can't bring myself to go after anyone else.

your a virgin dear, no worries.

Entropy3000

You are a virgin by definition.

What does it matter?

I do suggest you be honest with your future husband on your level of experience going into the marriage. There is no need for a label.

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SimplyAmorous

I know of a couple (a woman in my Mops group)... who waited to have their 1st kiss on their wedding day, I guess this is how high you regard the term "virgin" then? I am seriously curious of this mindset ...

Can you tell me where you get this idea of heightened purity... is it from scripture or something else ?? .... Many on this particular forum feel as you .... The Marriage Bed - Sex Intimacy for Married Christians

I was bascially spit upon with our pre-marital actions, told to repent...didn't matter that he was who I married... but we don't regret what we did...so I would be lying through my teeth anyway. As if my own Maker wouldn't know my heart.

Back to my friend from Mops... When she told us that, my mouth near hit the floor, I made a really big deal out of it, gave her alot of praise.... I thought it was pretty sweet -- but darn ...the self control !!! I couldn't fathom it if one has any kind of sex drive. I was very honest with her on the spot... I told her no way in the world could we have been THAT PURE.... Her husband was a Preachers son and that worked for them, they went on to have 3 little girls , as last I seen them... seemed really happy. They were on the same page... what it is all about.

It matters to some people. I mattered to me (back then).

I personally have mixed feelings on it... NOW... I think it is something to be proud of on the one hand ...if you are lucky enough to BE sexually compatable....

....But on the other hand ...I see it as a HUGE RISK in an upcoming marraige... what if the woman can not orgasm & this is highly highly important to her husband...(some men are like this- my husband is one of them, he is the type that would get depressed over it).... what if she can only orgasm from oral and he doesn't like it, what if he feels oral should be performed & she hates it , makes her gag, is repulsed....(happens all the time)...... what if she finds out she doesn't like sex ? I pity the husband!

I think it is a nice thing but I also feel it can invite many problems at the same time..... unforseen. It is a tough call. BUt I don't think we should have sex casually ....ever.

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Know_Buddy

i agree with you.
all i did was answer the basic question asked by the OP.
that is my opinion that going farther than kissing is to me pushing it over the 'virgin' point.

i also do think it can cause potential problems waiting for marriage to have sex.
i think people should know if they are sexually compatible, it is too important an issue to gamble with i think.

Chelle D

I agree that you are a virgin... However, I think it is important that you have a talk sometime, one on one... open & frank talk with future hubby.

let him know that you did do some (although very little ) contact with male genitals. Tell him about the limited oral. It's better that he knows now & knows that you are still a virgin,... then for him to find out years from now & have it cause a huge fight.

hydrolaw

No sex before marriage is an outdated tradition that originated with trying to guarantee family blood lines and trying to guarantee sexual purity of the female for the male. Stop wasting your time with such questions. Besides, I haven't ever bought a pair of shoes without trying them on first. It would really suck to marry the guy and find out you are not sexually compatible.

Dar-li

organickly saying: you are,
but emotionally, spiritually saying: you are not