Originally Posted by Know_Buddy
i agree with you.
all i did was answer the basic question asked by the OP.
that is my opinion that going farther than kissing is to me pushing it over the 'virgin' point.
i also do think it can cause potential problems waiting for marriage to have sex. i think people should know if they are sexually compatible, it is too important an issue to gamble with i think.
Ok, I get what you are saying now.... I do.... it doesn't even mean that YOU or your wife was THIS
pure.... just that you view the term as "untouched
" in every single way. I guess one could call those of us who fooled around pleasurably - but waited for intercourse as Dirty and Tainted.
I struggled my whole youth feeling like God was judging me anyway, so very true... I WAS dirty minded
& I wanted nothing more than to get a little "dirty" with my boyfriend.
But I still feel like I sacrificed something during dating... given we waited for him to "enter" me, it was a HUGE struggle at first, I remember thinking ... "Oh my God, how are we not going to do this?!@#$%".....but I had my boundary in the sand...that was as pure as I could handle it ... and he respected that boundary. ....Maybe it was stupid even, but we felt Good for what we held back (I would have had a mountain of Guilt /shame otherwise)..... given that sacrifice, we still wore White on our wedding day and didn't feel like hypocrites.
But hey, that is just MY opionion... from a Tainted virgin. I wouldn't have had any desire what so ever to be as PURE as those who are untouched anyway. God Bless them, it wasn't for me! I feel it would have sucked all of the enjoyment & romance out of our dating years & we both would have been utterly frustrated....might have even jumped into marriage too soon just so we could touch each other.
My oldest is 21, a Worship Leader--his desire is to go on to be a Youth Pastor... he is still a Virgin.. He has not been intimate in any way, he has no trouble getting girls, his roommates tell me they swarm around him, I see it when he has big parties at our house.....but he is very very choosey, He does not believe in having sex before marraige, he feels it is morally wrong...
Most Moms are worried their sons are going to knock someone up, I am worried mine is going to marry a low drive virgin & suffer in his marriage. I feel we NEED to have some experimentation while dating, I see much wisdom in that....even if my son disagress with me.