I definitely consider you a virgin
...where the meaning comes from, correct me if I am wrong , is likely the OLD Testament in the Bible-
Read #2 on this Book page >> Sex Texts from the Bible -Blood on the sheets
I did alot worse than you before I married, me & my then bf/ now husband touched each other intimately for near 7 yrs before we married ..... I also did a little something with a neighbor Boy before I met him, I don't really regret any of these things. My boundary was intercourse, isn't this what makes you "one" ....(penis inside vagina)... also what has the power to create "new life".
And still when I married.... there was a little blood I recall... we had so much trouble with my hymen, it is seriously laughable. I hope you won't go through that experience! I always considered myself a Virgin - at least physically. Though some would still judge that my purity was tainted and I was not a virgin "spiritually".... people like the last poster here Know_buddy . I often wonder what their sexual histories consisted of..
To each their own judgement. We both wore White on our Wedding day...and we still had something beautiful to share where no other has been......we considered it a sacred
thing.....even if it was terribly frustrating for a time. My husband couldn't get it in!.... after 3 months of this frustration, my obgyn wanted to give me a hymenectomy surgery....but surprise surprise, I was pregnant !
So I conceived before my husband fully penetrated me, we used to joke our 1st son was the immaculate conception. It was the craziest thing ever - I doubt you'll have that much trouble !
I think your husband should be very proud of you for waiting .... in this day & age, it is near unheard of. You & he should have something very very very special.