RichyUmy

Hi, i have picked out a ring and is on order, im not planning on proposing to my lovely lady until July while we are away on holiday, I wish to ask for her parents blessing before i go ahead with the proposal. July is nearly 4 months away. the question i have is when should i ask the parents? im not sure if to do it earlier or later? i see them quite alot but my feelings say do it early. any help and advice would be much appreciated thaank you

sigma1299

I would say about a month out, but there's no reason not to do it sooner just tell her father your time line so he doesn't wonder what happened. I applaud you for wanting to do this. It will mean a lot to all of you later on.

Another thought, some of how far out you ask for her hand depends on how long of an engagement you anticipate. If you think you'll be engaged for several months IMO you can wait to ask a little longer. If you think you'll get married quickly I would ask him a little sooner just to give him time to process it.

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RichyUmy

thank you for the advice, the other thing is the legnth between engagement and marriage, i was thinking about a year to year n half, give me time to save and pay for it?

cdavis

I didn't do this, but I would suggest within a week. Like a day or two before you prop the question or a maximum of a week before.

EleGirl

It will probably be hard for her parents to keep your secret once you tell them. So closer to your ask date is probably better

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shy_guy

My future son in law asked me about a month before he proposed to my daughter. He also wanted to plan the time and be sure I would be there to take a picture when he proposed to her .

It wouldn't have been a problem if he had asked earlier. The month was strictly because he wanted time to plan a venue to ask her, and wanted to get her mother's and my feedback on this in time for us all to plan it. Of course, I absolutely knew what the answer was going to be when he asked, so there was no apprehension - just excitement .

Dar-li

you dont have to be much juridical, is not a process,
just be natural and talking by ask or tell them.....

SmallSoulBlue

I think my hubby did it about month prior. Congratulations on your decision.