Re: Husbands crazy jealously over my ex BF in HIGH SCHOOL driving me NUTS!!!!
Oh my goodness, My husband is the same way, though I didn't know it was still going on in his mind until I found out this year what he's really been thinking.
When we first got married, he was insanely jealous. I told him I wasn't going to put up with it and I thought it stopped when I stopped working and became a SAHM.
Here, for years, my husband thought I called my ex, from 25 years ago, when he would leave for work. I had no idea he thought this, but it certainly explains his awful treatment towards me.
Believe me, I never him a reason for it either. All I did was take care of the kids and the home. I never went anywhere. And when I separated from my husband for 2 years, I certainly didn't call my ex-boyfriend.
Now, If I sit outside, my husband is checking to see if I'm talking to anyone (like a man). I just think "what the heck???, what, am I going to jump some guy's bones?"
I find it insulting to my character. I am not that kind of person and never was... I don't deserve that...
There's only so much you can do to reassure someone, but if they have deep seeded insecurities, only counseling will help. All I know is that I am not going to be made to feel guilty when I'm innocent, nor am I going to stop doing what I enjoy, like visiting family because of his jealousy.
It's my husband and his insecurities. It's something he is going to have to deal with.
My heart goes out to you for I know how difficult it is dealing with feeling you have to defend yourself when you've done nothing wrong. It's exhausting and infuriating.