02-20-2009, 04:45 PM
Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: Temporary Resident of Earth Lord Only Knows Where Next
| | Re: Separation.
I have read a few articles that discuss menopause and its effects on a woman’s relationship with her husband. In short some theories indicate that the “mommy” instincts shut down and she begins to see she has a life for her self. This can lead to a departure from the marriage to follow that dream..
Getting drunk will only provide numbness and possibly misplaced anger. If this is the end for you as a couple then it is time to start for yourself just as she is doing. Be confident around her and show her you are OK and willing to move forward without her. Join a church, club, gym…. or any other place that will offer you the chance to begin to grow new social contacts. Take up a hobby, read, travel. Do things for yourself and with time the pain will ebb and you’ll be happier.
I am so sorry to hear this, my best to you. Sixteen years is a long time.
Confidence – Love – Patience – Faith Are the tools to help heal a marriage.
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