My wife and I have have had some issues the past two years. I know I have not been the model husband to her during this time but I have never done anything like showing my self to another person.
One morning I woke up and found her sleeping in my recliner in my man cave with the music on her Iphone. I went to shut it off and found a text from a man that I never heard of on the front. It stated are you still up. I was able to get into her phone and found about 4 pictures of him showing himself to her and her reciprocating. When I dug deeper into her phone there were about 25 pictures that she had taken of herself in outfits and lingerie that I had bought her. There was about 150 text from that night. I went to my online account and looked and there were over 1000 texts and pictures sent back and forth.
We have spoke about it and I am able to forgive her I think. There are issues that I have with this that I am not able to get past. There are also more issue with this. Does anybody have any suggestions? Thanks for any help that may be offered.
Hi Beachman sorry you are here I would define cheating as going outside of my marriage and seeking comfort in others rather emotional or physical excluding relatives, kids etc. that is how both my spouse and I would define it as others have mentioned if you and your spouse have defined it differently then you would need to maybe redefine if it is causing you issues or problems
You have a chance to stop this, it must be stopped, if it goes further, then its over, surely, very difficult to go back, its starting as an emotional affair, but can go forward very fast. Whats her reason behind this?? Financial, emotional? or no sexual relationship? Talk to her about it, maybe she feels that excites you or something??
Thanks for all the help. I had a hunch tonight based on the time she came home and deciding to go for a walk at 11 tonight that something was up. I checked the verizon records and there were two more texts to him. When I confronted her she gave me a hard time about it and then even a harder time reading them. Damn Iphone locks. She said she had to apologize to him. Apologize to him? I dont get it. After looking at them on her phone she was not lying to me. She said it was the right thing to do. Well we are at point now worse than we were 24 hours ago and everthing being my fault. I accepted part of the blame due to my lack of communication over the years but now I'm not. I have alot of reading to do to get my head on straight. Off to work now with no sleep, should make for an interesting day. I have a lot to do on my end.
Suggestion: she ends all contact with him compltely and forever.
Who is this guy? Do you know him? If he's married, tell his wife. Without your wife knowing beforehand.
He is not married just some one who was working for a band when she had a girls night out. After doing some further research Thanks verizon!!! They started texting on the first night they met. There was two texts at 1:00 and two more at 4:00 something tells me that they have met up or something. Will be calling her out on this tomorrow.