krismimo

Hello all! I opened this thread not to be nosey that is not my intent. But there are a few posters who have been on here for awhile (Newbies as well) and sometimes all we ask is what is going on but not really where we are mentally? So where are you in our journey in this crazy life? There is no right answer, besides if were not honest with ourselves how can we be honest with others? And yes if asked I will be happy to share as well.

krismimo

And When I speak of honesty regarding our feelings.

shy_guy

Just asking where we are is like asking the meaning of the universe. Where should I start? You don't really want to give me an open ended writing opportunity, believe me.

I'd say I'm in about the best place I've been up to now in life. I've always been an optimist, but I'm really a happy person now. I'm proud of my kids and in a good place with them (2 adult daughters, 1 son still at home). I'm in love with my wife, happy at home, fulfilled. I'm challenged at work - something I need to maintain happiness on the job. I'm just happy to get up in the morning and see what I can get into during the day.

At the moment, I'm anxious to get home to that sexy little lady that's shared the last 27 years with me.

krismimo

YAY first post. No pleae write as much as you want I love to write things out. I see a mixture of feelings on here so I just wanted to see how everyone else was doing. I like talking ot people and helping others (If I can) it can be a healthy destraction plus karma points wouldnt hurt. I'am married as well not as long as you have but for the most part is is pretty good I think it is your outlook on things in general.

Mistys dad

I freakin' love my life.

Having a blast. Taking incredible adventures. Meeting great people.

Have the time, money and motivation to do what I want, when I want.

Love the US and decided to see more of it a couple of years ago. I grabbed my Harley(s) and hit the road. Been through 47 states in the last 3 years, most of them on long solo trips. It taught me to go anywhere, talk to anyone, and make a good time.

Love my Wife. Love being married. Love being faithful.

I am looking forward to the years to come. If the power-that-be decides otherwise, I've lived my share.

__________________
The first question should always be, "If it's that bad, why are you still there?

OK, you screwed up, it happens. Now apologize. But apologize just once. Make it loud, clear, short, to the point, and directly to those you trespassed against. Then move on.

Accipiter777

After nearly 8 months of serious depression and feeling my marriage was dying or already dead, I'm better now and hope to keep moving in that direction. Understanding what my wife's needs are, and her understanding mine have paved the way to a stronger marriage.

waiwera

I'm in a good place too!

I've been a mummy for 25 years and had a baby/child when I met my H so we've never had time for just 'us'... presently we have a 14, 16 and 25 year old (who is flatting)

Now my youngest is a teenager and can be left home alone legally H and i are having a blast.

Nowadays we abandon the boys regulary, we don't have to organise and then pay for a babysitter and do all the running around that entails and the boys are big enough to look after themselves as far as cooking , looking after the property etc...

We have spontaneity for the first time in our relationship and its... far-out and fabulous!

greenpearl

Age: I am 39, and my husband is 35. We are young and healthy!

Marriage: We are going to have our seventh anniversary in June, happy years, and we are looking forward to spend the rest of our life happily together. The journey is long, but when the scenery is beautiful, it's all enjoyable.

Career: There is no career for us. My husband used to be an accountant in Canada, now he teaches English in Taiwan. I am a teacher also. We don't have ladders to climb, and we don't like to climb ladders, so teaching is a good job for us. The only drawback is sometimes we have to deal with students with bad attitude or students who are slow at learning, not easy. Salary is good, and hours are good. If we can keep the way we are now for another twenty years, wonderful!

Life in general: We own a small apartment, mortgage is about to be paid off. Actually if we put our savings together, it's enough to pay off the mortgage now. We like to keep some cash with us in case bad things happen. We don't have cars. We go to work by motorcycles. My husband is considering buying another heavy motorcycle, that's just for fun. We don't have other kinds of debt.

Family: My parents are about eighty years old. They are old and sick. My in-laws are about sixty years old, still young and healthy. They just retired. I have a son from my first marriage. He lives with his father, and he comes to visit me every Saturday. Right now he is in the eighth grade.



Overall, my life is happy and peaceful. Sometimes I miss my families and become homesick.

Chelle D

Up and down.
Finding out more about myself and some suggestions of how to deal with my issues, have been a plus for me. However, it still hurts to see some truths that I have buried my head in the sand about.

I guess i'm in it for the "better" or worse. Marriage was getting on the "better" side in past couple months. THen, suddenly, he's so busy & coming home late all the time again. I feel left out, so I feel so much like reaching out & talking to others about it.

He would be ballistic if he knew I was talking about parts of it here.

desert-rose

I am glad to hear that so many of you are happy. Check out the infidelity boards or separation/ divorce boards and you'll see a different mood altogether. Maybe I'm posting on the wrong board...

Me? I'm effing miserable. I'm still in love with my emotionally abusive, serial cheating husband and hopeful that we can fix this disaster of a marriage, even though we are currently separated (6 months of limbo, not sure which way it will go). Neither of us wanted to be separated, but he was out of control and there was a family intervention. He's sending me vague threats of violence because I objected to his cheating and abusiveness. I occasionally try to talk some sense into him. He doesn't want to apologize; I insist that he needs to get anger management. We throw in the towel; then one of us decides to say it isn't over yet. It's a stand-off. Limbo sucks. I'm trying to finish my PhD and am at the very very last stage but I'm so depressed I want to off myself most days and am crushed by stress and grief and struggling every day in the hope that I can finish my work and graduate. Miss my WH and mad as hell at him for his behavior and its horrible timing; know I deserve better; know he didn't mean to be this way and is ill; know that love makes us do very stupid things. Grateful as hell for my counselor/therapist. Family loves me but don't understand what I'm going through and are far away and lots going on there, too; I'm worried WH will beat them up out of his desire for revenge, but restraining order isn't an option. Not a happy place to be. Barely hanging on by a thread.

Be grateful for what you got, folks, 'cause some of us are struggling to find that silver lining every day!

shy_guy

We really need a "sympathize" button, or at least an "Acknowledge" button. There are some posts that I read, and understand what I'm reading, and really appreciate the part of the heart that person is baring, but it's just inappropriate and insensitive to put a "like" on it.

Desert-rose, I'd put a "sympathize," or an "acknowledge" on your post, but I just can't say I like it because that might imply I like what you're going through ...

But you do help us be grateful as you said in your last sentence.

GreenEyes

Um, I'm at an I don't know place in my life right now.....I love my H, but I don't think that we want the same things out of a relationship/life.....I feel like he still wants to be single and young on the weekends, whereas I want to go out and have fun and be young on the weekends, but I also do not deny the fact that I am 29, married with 2 kids....

I'm confused and I really don't know what to do with my life...I love my H, but feel that we will never be at the same place in our lives....I feel that we were raised too differently to make it work....I've bended as much as I am willing, and apparently so has he, and it's still not enough...I don't know I have a lot of thinking to do

Jayb

I'm going through the worst experience in my life. WAW, refuses any chance. 2 small children and me aren't worth 1 last fight.

I'm distraught. I love a woman who doesn't exist anymore. And I am partly responsible for that past person's demise and death.

I'm so sad. So hurt. And yet, so determined.

Lon

I've been generally ok, though everything has piled on in my mind and for the past couple hours I've been a sobbing mess. I think once I get this out of my system I'll be ok again.

waiwera

I feel this too... I want to say 'i hear you' or 'i'm sorry your so sad'...maybe we need a cyber-hug button???