zamardii12

I know this is long, but please read.

So, I've put up posts before about the things my girlfriend gets mad at me for and I have a new one so here it goes...

Friday night, she gets out of work at 10:30 and I was invited to a friend's house who I don't see as much anymore, that night for dinner. So as I was going over to my friend's house a little early, but I stopped by my girl's work because I said I would on my way there. So I stopped by there and hung out for a hour and we both talked about her coming over after work and it takes her about a half an hour to get to my house from her work. So I left her work and went off to my friend's house and we were talking and catching up and having a good time. She calls me at about 9:10 or so I think it was and was telling me how one of her co-workers was hurt and how she was very anxious and freaking out because shes their boss and was worried it would come back on her and that it was her fault...etc etc. So I calmed her down and told her I would leave my friend's house at 10 so I would meet her at her work when she gets out at 10:30, then we could drive (in separate cars) back to my house. So 10:00 o'clock roles around and my friend and I are in the middle of a very important conversation and I did not want to be rude being a guest at their house that they invited me to and say, okay I have to go now (I thought that would have been rude anyway considering what we were talking about).

So 10:24 comes around and she calls and asks what i'm up to and I said I was just leaving my friend's house, and she said," Oh okay, well i'm leaving. I'm going to go home." I said, let's just meet at my house and i'll get there the same time as you and she said," No, you are farther than me and i'm leaving now and it takes me 30 minutes to get to your house." I know I can get to my house faster than she could have because it takes her longer to get on the interstate. We have been talking about getting together all day and couldn't wait to see each other all day after work. She even left me a note on my bed that said "see you after work." So I was just under the impression that she was really tired and would rather go home and sleep.

So I hightail it to her house because I wanted to say goodnight before she went to bed and I get to her house before she does and I thought that was good because then I beat her home. So I am waiting and waiting and she still doesn't show up. Her cell phone died so my girl's mom called her best friend's cell phone and my girl answered. Her mom said that I was here waiting to say goodnight to her and she said she was at a restaurant with her friend and haven't left that city she works in yet. So, I don't see her for the rest of tonight. I call her the next morning and i could just tell on her voice how she was giving me one word answers to everything I was asking her and just could hear it on her tone. I asked her if anything was wrong and she said no. So a little annoyed, I said," okay, i'll talk to you later. bye."

So I text message her and say," Btw, did anything happen on Friday night? You were really excited about coming over after work; you even left me that noted on my bed and you ended up going to a restaurant with her friend (even though she told me on the phone she was going home). It's not a big deal, I just didn't get it. I thought you were upset by the way you sounded on the phone."

She Responds," Um maybe because you said you would leave their house on time and you didn't so that really showed me you wanted to see me."

I respond," I'm sorry I didn't leave on time when I said I would meet you at your work. But if I had left on time all we would have done is drive back to my house in separate cars anyway and gotten there at the same time. I got to your house in 23 minutes and I could have gotten to my house even faster. You know what it's like when you're in a conversation and you don't want to leave because you don't want to be rude. Do you honestly think I didn't want to see you? Even if it somehow it seemed that way do you think that's why it was? Me not leaving on time was not because of you. You know I love being with you whenever.

She responds," I'm so glad you asked......."

I respond, "What was that for? "......"

She responds," That's not the point. You said you would do something and you didn't."

I respond," I'm sorry. Do you at least understand it from my point of view?"

She respond," What I understand is that you never think you're in the wrong."

I respond," I know i'm wrong. That why I said i'm sorry. I'm just asking you if you understand from my perspective. I understand your perspective and realize I didn't do something and apologized because you're right.

She respond," I see from your point that you didn't care about leaving when you said you would. It's not a big deal, that just irritates me, it's kind of annoying and unthoughtful.

I didn't respond for a while and she wrote," Now you're not talking."

I responded," We'll talk about this more later."

She responds," No. I'm done talking about it."

And I didn't respond anymore after this because I was just at a loss of words. I was just saying to myself," I don't know what to say anymore. She once told me that I don't ever see things from other people's perspectives, and she clearly doesn't see mine and I don't know if I should keep talking about this or not. I remember she also told me that I can talk to her about anything, but when I said we'll talk about it later and she said," No, i'm done talking about it."

I also want to point out that I have OCD and it is very hard for me to deal with this sort of stuff because my anxiety goes through the roof and I can be irrational at times although I never let that show because I have learned of ways to diminish the compulsion. But, I don't know if you have read my past posts but I really would like some input on this.

Like, I want to bring it up again even though she said she's done talking about it. But I would like some input from the people here.