wife constantly brings up ex GF's to avoid questions
wanted to ask if anyone else deals with this. My wife age 44 works late constantly, 10-25 minutes almost every day, yet doesn't get paid for it. Told her she needed to stop doing that or i would start to feel like she would rather be hanging outthere then with her family
She 'worked' late again the other day, only 30 minutes, but still.. i have asked her multiple times to please text or call me when she works late so I do not have to worry. She began her explanation with "Ron was trying to show me how to do my job better, and I had to stay and laugh when he failed"
Ron age 34 is an owner/partner that for the last 2 months only comes in 2 days a week, whom, in my wifes words: "thinks he is a rock star and recently started to manage a country rap group, doesn't know why he is married when he is never home and always out drinking, will come in to work drunk and start trouble with banks/insurance companies and customers when he does and she has to put out the fires"
Well I asked if he was on the phone for 30 minutes and/or drunk and she said no, but she had work to do also, a few more minutes into the conversation it went to the clocks on the computer are 25 minutes slow so she didn't know what time it really was as it said 4:05 and not 4:30, then finally changed to she was trying to make up time as she was taking Friday off.
I told her I do not trust or like Ron as he does drink, and recently they gave my wife a pair of tickets to a hockey game and my son and I went. She told me to let her know what Rons wife was like as she never met her in 2.5 years but met the other partenrs wife multiple times. When we got there he was drunk and looked and acted very dissapointed and asked me why I came down with my son and not my wife like she said?
I told him I didn't know, she didn't mention it and oh btw where is your wife? He didn't answer and just walked away, he came with his brother instead and his brother told me he never asks his wife to go.
So when i asked her why she didn't just tell me that she stayed to make up time in the first place, i get, so what are you going to do with that ****s husband dies? Go back to her?
"Her " being my first gf from 1984-87. Her father just passed and I 'liked' a eulogy left by a mutual friend and ever since she has given me **** about wanting to get back together, that evening particularlly hard.
Is it a 'diversionary' tactic?