i am married to a man who has 2 adult kids 19 (daughter) and 22(son)..im pregnant and still working to save up for my maternity leave..he still is paying for everything for this kids which i have no right to complain..they are both working and has been told to stop cause of school but won't listen, has been asked school/work..chose work but doesn't wanna stop school..my husband don't know what to do so he kept spending money for them not knowing where is it going.. ..both are failing in class..getting Cs in majors..changing majors, in other hand just screwing in school..son recently crashed his car so he got him another one..spends over 300$ for gas/month..he complains to me about it keeps going on and on..i am so tired of hearing those until i said something about he isn't implementing the role of a father but only a provider that they lack of discipline and he said that his gonna tell his daughter about what i said and the daughter will hate me and not talk to me and i stopped him cause i don't want trouble..which is stupid of me though everytime we fight over something he'd tell his daughter theres no such thing as for couples only..i know i should have tell him to MARRY HIS OWN DAUGHTER i don't feel like a wife around here its always his daughter who has authority over something..like what to buy for furnitures what color and everything every time i suggest something always throw away..he spoiled his kids too much ..imagine we still do everything for them from laundry to cleaning their rooms and restrooms..even taking the trash out of their room is still us..they don't do anything except eat, play, and sleep..makes a mess in the house..seriously..i think my husband is treating them as toddlers..we cannot leave the house without making something for them to eat..the son is quiet doesn't talk but doesn't obey and no respect..the daughter talks back, rude, acts as if she's got servant..get me this, do this for me..peel this for me..im not eating it if u don't put it on a plate for me..stuffs like that. .and when i asked stuffs jokingly to him he acts as if its the end of the world whereas to his kids go go go..in fact he's still paying for the debt that his former wife acquired when she was still alive and most of it are from the expensive bags, clothes, jewelries..all girly stuffs in short..i saw the receipts on the boxes where her stuffs are..prada, channel, KP,MJs,Celine, Burberry,Gucci..and so much more..
also i need him to realize his too much to his kids that they need to be disciplined cause i don't want them to influenced my child and it hurts me more when he complain about this and that about his children i feel the pressure ..that also he will be more concern for the future of my child and not only to his adult spoiled kids..i want my child to be respectful and kind far from the siblings behavior
we still aren't talking and i would never do the first move otherwise the topic will be left alone..and he never tried to either..well, whenever he try i have a letter ready for him stating all my concerns and hurts he gave me..cause i cant talk and cry I'm so emotional i lost words every time
is there anything i should add more on the letter??? any advice in general?? id appreciate it
thank you for taking time to read this thread i know its quiet long
best regards
selena
also i need him to realize his too much to his kids that they need to be disciplined cause i don't want them to influenced my child and it hurts me more when he complain about this and that about his children i feel the pressure ..that also he will be more concern for the future of my child and not only to his adult spoiled kids..i want my child to be respectful and kind far from the siblings behavior
we still aren't talking and i would never do the first move otherwise the topic will be left alone..and he never tried to either..well, whenever he try i have a letter ready for him stating all my concerns and hurts he gave me..cause i cant talk and cry I'm so emotional i lost words every time
is there anything i should add more on the letter??? any advice in general?? id appreciate it
thank you for taking time to read this thread i know its quiet long
best regards
selena