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Old 04-03-2012, 08:36 AM   #1 (permalink)
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We just had a romantic getaway to try and work on sex issues as my wife has lost a good bit of her sensataion with sex and has stopped having orgasims, thus leading to lack of sexual desire.

While talking many things sexual, she informed me, after 22 years of marriage, that he, her one and only BF prior to me from 25 years ago measured in at 13", twice my size. Quote - "It took some getting used to you." All said matter of factly. But to me it sounded like she was saying she downgraded in going to me. She didn't use those words. I didn't ask for that info and I wasn't lookiing for it. It just came out while she was "checking me out."

One time before while trying to do a certain position she had said that she was able to do it with the BF but that it was probably because he was bigger than me. There was no mention of size then.

I'm now having a hard time getting past this. Do I just need to suck it up and know that it was prior to me, and I'm the one she married. Or am I right in being bothered by this. I keep thinking that what she said will now be in my head the remainder of our marraige and certainly any time I'm being inspected. Sucks.
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Old 04-03-2012, 08:44 AM   #2 (permalink)
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What a horrible, infantile, gutteral, and disrespectful thing to say. Did you mention that her saggy boobs just didnt do it for you like they used to?

All during a romantic getaway...

I am one of the "walked away from" spouses that took that kind of sh!t on a daily basis, whether it be by complete ignorance, or purposeful derision, I think you should show her how size doesnt matter.
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13 inches my ass

not even the biggest porn stars are that big

I doubt many women at all would want to have a penis that large, it would be painful
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What a horrible, infantile, gutteral, and disrespectful thing to say. Did you mention that her saggy boobs just didnt do it for you like they used to?

All during a romantic getaway...

I am one of the "walked away from" spouses that took that kind of sh!t on a daily basis, whether it be by complete ignorance, or purposeful derision, I think you should show her how size doesnt matter.
N, I didn't critisize her at all. In fact she want asked me about my ex's breast and said surely they must have been bigger than my wife's. But I told her I would not go there. My wife seem to have more of a filter problem, or lack of a proper filter, as we age. She has never done this before in making a comparsion like that. But this one definitely hurts.
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more accurate chart

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedi..._frequency.svg
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My husband is large.. Not 13 , that would kill me.

Your wife is a shrew. To comment on a body part such as genitals is rude and disrespectful. What was her purpose in this? Just to hurt you, it seems.

Why is she so resentful and bitter towards you?
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13 inches my ass

not even the biggest porn stars are that big

I doubt many women at all would want to have a penis that large, it would be painful
That's eaxactly what I said, and then she said it was 10 or 13 and that she would ask her sister's husband, since apparently they reported the size to him right after they came out of the room measuring it. Either way, a number of inches larger than what she has now. I asked he not to ask the brother-in-law; but knowing her, she probably will.
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Yea, that chart seems good. 13 is wrong, unless she measured it...but my first was 9 and my hubs is 9...and that's huge and took getting used to because it can hurt.

Was that TMI? Sorry...I just get irritated when people compare their mates to exes. If the ex was so good, then why is it an ex?

Ugh.
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That's eaxactly what I said, and then she said it was 10 or 13 and that she would ask her sister's husband, since apparently they reported the size to him right after they came out of the room measuring it. Either way, a number of inches larger than what she has now. I asked he not to ask the brother-in-law; but knowing her, she probably will.
Wow!! She just won't quit!

Is she talking to this ex again? Seems odd she'd just bust out with this 22 year later.
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Wow!! She just won't quit!

Is she talking to this ex again? Seems odd she'd just bust out with this 22 year later.
Annual kind of check-in stuff. But I think that is it. She has claimed that he blows her off in her efforts to have a friendship. That's a good thing at this point or our marriage would significantly suffer.
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What a mean woman.

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Annual kind of check-in stuff. But I think that is it. She has claimed that he blows her off in her efforts to have a friendship. That's a good thing at this point or our marriage would significantly suffer.
Why would you tolerate her trying to be friends with an ex?
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Errrr ummm. You mean she annually checks in with her ex boyfriend...... and this seems normal, mundane and ok to you?

Hello? Do you have any boundries at all? Do you enforce them? Do you check in with your ex girlfriends and try to maintain a friendship every year?

I wouldn't worry to much about your penis size, but you might want to check your testicles.
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The last three references attributed to a woman to a man's size on this forum that I have seen over the past week or so are in order:

10, 12+ and now 13. Either the world is now dominated by guys with nearly a foot or more in size, there is some fantasy going on or these women have no idea ow big anything is. perhaps their husbands have told them they are 8 and they are only really 4 so the women are using that as a reference. Or maybe juts a lot of porn watching is going on. One of those references was from an eye witness. Two were heresay.

Now as to your situation. Was this part of her way of telling you she is still sexual? Was this part of a fantasy discussion to spice things up? Was she trying to say she no longer has orgasms because she needs a foot plus inside her? It is not like she said her BF was 8 or 9, instead it was double your size. Or maybe she was saying that she enjoyed the visual stimulus to get ready for sex. Was she hinting ot using some larger toys int eh bedroom? Was she hinting at lookig up the BF? Was she hinting at a threesome or open marriage? Was this just a very off the wall comment with no follow up?
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Annual kind of check-in stuff. But I think that is it. She has claimed that he blows her off in her efforts to have a friendship. That's a good thing at this point or our marriage would significantly suffer.
She is seeking him out?

No good, my friend. Sounds like she's daydreaming and obsessing about him.

What is this "annual checkup"? Is he a gyno? no. he's an ex. no need for checking up.
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