hisfac

I don't think throwing money at the problem is going to make it go away.

hisfac

You'd really cover the rent and associated expenses for 3 months for a person that you only know through 2 posts on an internet discussion board?

Besides you are over simplifying things by saying covering 3 months worth of her expenses solves her money issues. 3 months goes by very quickly. Like I said she needs to be proactive here and get hubby to pay her support.

chillymorn

sounds like hubby might turn into a stalker or worse.....

you need to cover the bases next time he hits you call the cops take pictures get witnesses anything that will help document your case of years of abuse.

then buy a 45acp practice practice practice if he comes to asult you again you will be ready.

what a coward ....

mrsamazing

OP, look at it this way: you are aware that the violence being committed on you is a crime. Toy said yourself you are not a victim. That means you are a party to the crime. Before you say I don't know, I'll tell you that I do know. After 15 years of steadily increasing violence, some one said to me "what are you going to do about it?" It was then that I realized that at that point I was responsible for what was happening to me and that I was choosing to expose my son. I walled away within a week. I was lucky and had a good job, but other than that, I started over.
Stop making excuses.
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rundown

I happen to love this idea.

hisfac

With THIS economy? People who are trained, skilled, eduated, and highly experienced in their fields are going broke, declaring bankruptcy, their houses are being foreclosed and they're out of work for many months or years and you're stating that this woman, with a young child and in a state of major crisis will have a job and savings in 3 months.

A Bit Much

I think the OP has left this conversation. She's not ready.

River1977

I don't understand anyone disputing or minimizing the offer Rundown made to the OP. Do people really just need to have something, just any ole thing to say? Of course 3 months would be extremely helpful to the OP. She already has a job. Not that I would take that kind of help from an online stranger, but that is up to her. It would help a lot, especially since one of her excuses is not having the money to leave.

hisfac

You assume the Op has left because she's not ready.. all because she hasn't followed up with another post?

It's been 3 hours since she started the thread and 2 hours since she last posted. Maybe she has things to take care of today?

A Bit Much

I didn't state it as fact, I did preface my post with I think.

Maybe she has things to do, but that last post she left here isn't promising in the way of really wanting to do any more than she has already.

hisfac

I get that what people post is what they think and their opinions unless they cite some sort of legitimate reference or proven clinical study or something of that nature.

I was questioning why someone would think someone else has left a conversation because they didn't respond to a thread in under 2 hours.

A Bit Much

It's my opinion. That's okay isn't it? By her last post, I have formed an opinion.

Does that bother you?

River1977

This is way over the top and makes no sense to state. She already has a job. And yes, people survive with all their problems. No one is trying to solve all of her problems, especially not any problems she may face in the future, and you keep on giving her more excuses to stay. There was no legitimate or reasonable purpose for posting this. She needs to leave and get out of her abusive environment. Would you either be helpful or reframe from responding, please, because this was not at all helpful and not at all true either because none of your scenario applies to the OP and her situation.

No one gets charged with abandonment for leaving their spouse, nor can he claim abandonment for her leaving, nor can he use her leaving to get full custody. That is just ridiculous. Besides, there practically is no such thing as full custody any more. Each parent receives visitation rights in a divorce. It's called parenting time and usually works out to be equal time through the week and weekends, or he would at least get every other weekend. She certainly would not lose her son just because she left her husband.

And, no one gets charged with kidnapping for leaving and taking their child with them unless there is a custody order that specifically states they cannot have their child. Taking her children is the customary thing to do. What rock do you live under?

This is getting worse by the moment....or by the post. Good grief.

I'm betting she hasn't posted any more because she does not like what she's reading. She came here thinking there would be some kind of magic potion people could offer her. She does not want to leave and doesn't want anyone telling her to leave.

A Bit Much

Financial dependance keeps MANY people in bad or untolerable conditions. Let's be real here, if they had the money to live independantly they wouldn't be there. That doesn't make any sense whatsoever. Why stay with someone that beats the crap out of you if you had enough money to get away from them?

A Bit Much

I've heard of it, just don't think it applies here.

One of her excuses for not leaving was financial.