sisters359

She also used "out in the bush," so I think that is Down Under.

OP, don't you have domestic abuse hotlines? In the US, if a woman fears that leaving will itself cause abuse, she just disappears--with the kids and whatever she can throw into the car as fast as possible. She goes to a women's shelter, and the people there help her with EVERYTHING--counseling, medical care (both are available to her and the kids), and with legal proceedings, housing, and finding a job. A big emphasis is put on making sure the h doesn't know where she is. She might have to see him in court, but she is kept safe, as are the kids.

Because you have seen your doctor, you should have no trouble proving the abuse. Your son may have to leave his current school, but you can settle somewhere else for a while--as long as you want--get divorced, have sole custody, etc.

Please, talk to the professionals in your community--look for a hotline. If things are so different there, let us know. We all have our own system as a reference point and don't want to waste your time with things that aren't available to you.

chillymorn

Heres my advice.

this has been an ongoing problem! You have tried and tried and just recently have tried again by talking to him like a caring human being. If things don't change DO NOT TALK TO HIM AGAIN ABOUT IT. just leave. this guy sounds unstable and I think it would be unwise to provoke him. If he assults you in any way take it and as soon as he falls asleep call 911. when they show up tell them you are scared for your life and he has been beating you for awhile also tell them about his canibis plants.

Then sell everything and start over. or whatever you want once hes out of the picture.

Jamison

You don't need to give him one more opportunity to make it better, because he is not going to make it better. This is a issue that has been going on for a very long time. He has had many opportunities it seems, so now its time to do something different. Leaving sounds good!

allisterfiend

No one is trowing money anywhere. If someone is taking that sort of abuse and someone has the means and is willing to help, I can totally respect it.

Rundown is a great person for just the offer alone.

I have police friends that see the circle of abuse go on and on.

If I could help, I would. But I have problems of my own.

This world needs more people like Rundown. This guy is a superhero.