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Old 04-05-2012, 03:03 PM   #1 (permalink)
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In my part of the world I hear the "Seven Year Itch" phrase a lot. Here it is commonly used to describe (or explain) transitions taking place in individuals' lives. My 88 year old mother used this phrase again this morning. She, like many others in her generation, believes it is very true--almost an exact science.

My estranged husband of four years called me out of the blue last night. It had been months since we had any contact. He basically wanted to catch up on things. Surprisingly the conversation lasted for 45 minutes. It seemed strange. When I told my mother of the conversation she immediately came to the conclusion that his seven year Sugar Daddy stage must be coming to an end. That made me think more about things and how cycles come to an end. Sure enough it has been 6 1/2 years since my estranged husband went off the deep end with his MLC.

I thought about my mother's comments and realized that a lot of stages in my life (and loved ones) do seem to last seven years. Anyone else notice this? How so?
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Old 04-05-2012, 03:08 PM   #2 (permalink)
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I have been in two long term relationships: my high school sweetheart and my now ex W, both of them lasted essentially 7 years. I have also had a few jobs that tended to end around the seven year mark. I guess when you have a good thing don't expect it to last more than that!
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Old 04-05-2012, 03:13 PM   #3 (permalink)
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me and H were together 13 years

according to him he started to lose the feeling about 6 years ago

you do the math(s)
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Old 04-05-2012, 03:19 PM   #4 (permalink)
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It's freaky but there are a lot of people who do separate/split at that 7 year mark. Crazy huH?
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Old 04-05-2012, 03:23 PM   #5 (permalink)
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About a year ago, I heard an updated study or whatever that said that the 7 year itch no longer exists. Rather, there's a 12-year itch.

And, 12 was the upcoming number for us.

Self-prophecy, BS or both?
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Old 04-05-2012, 03:27 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Kind of scary when one starts identifying things by the seven year rule..... My marriage/relationship lasted 21 years (3 x 7). It was roughly in 7 year stages. We were childless the first 7 years. The next 7 years we were both busy with small children. And finally we were busy with a business. After 7 years that business went on the decline fast too. I've also noticed that people's hobbies and interest tend to last 7 years.

I so hope my mother is correctly predicting my estranged husband's bizarre MLC is about to end. There goes my adult children's entertainment!
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Old 04-05-2012, 03:28 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Lol 827
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Old 04-05-2012, 03:28 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Correlation does not imply causation.

I nor my wife got "itchy" at the seven year mark.

It`s not time but lack of understanding and communication that lead one astray.
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Correlation does not imply causation.

I nor my wife got "itchy" at the seven year mark.

It`s not time but lack of understanding and communication that lead one astray.
which just happens to frequently correlate to the seven year mark
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Old 04-05-2012, 03:43 PM   #10 (permalink)
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We sought MC at the 7 year mark.
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Old 04-05-2012, 03:45 PM   #11 (permalink)
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im redoing my mortgage and the lady that came in said every 7 years many start a new cycle in their life or relationship.She many will remortgage at around 7 years,buy a new home about every 7 years etc so not sure it only pertains to relationships anymore.

Besides it all Hocus Pocus
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Old 04-05-2012, 04:20 PM   #12 (permalink)
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which just happens to frequently correlate to the seven year mark
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scratch,scratch back to the grind.
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Old 04-05-2012, 07:33 PM   #14 (permalink)
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I worry about this. But I wonder, if you're aware of it, can you prevent it? I mean, if you work on your marriage and stay connected then the itch won't happen...I guess?

I have never experienced the 7 year itch, but I have experienced the 3 month mark after a breakup.

No doubt those turds would call to "see how you're doin" almost 3 months to the DAY of a break up.

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I worry about this. But I wonder, if you're aware of it, can you prevent it? I mean, if you work on your marriage and stay connected then the itch won't happen...I guess?
Good question. It's all about losing interest and passion. Perhaps the human's attention span is only 7 years. I'm curious.
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