Hicks

Put it on her.
Say you are 100% willing and able to be a father to this boy. But, can only do it with 100% support from her and her family. When wife can make that happen, you will step up.

67flh

if it was me...i would put the house hunting off, pack my crap, pay my child support and be rid of this toxic woman and family. just how much more are you going to bend over and be put down before you lose your sanity.

lamaga

Either it's you and her parenting together, or you are out.

I understand that you are dealing with another culture, but who's dealing with your culture?

I'm glad you've disengaged, but you need to stick to it till she "gets" it.

Enginerd

I coached baseball and basketball and could always tell which child didn't have a decent father around. Its sad to see boys go without proper leadership because they need it so badly. However, as a step dad you can only do so much without running the risk of alienating the child and your wife. You have to make the child come to you and it may take years.

You married a single mother from a different culture. These are two huge challenges for any marriage in my opinion. Honestly, I could never endure such treatment from a family and would make a stand regardless of the consequences. You need to set some bondaries real quick and man up or get used to being a doormat. Are you really going to live your life according to the third world Aunt?