Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: On the cusp of something great!
Re: Please tell me if I am wrong here...did we move too fast?????
Please do not think I'm trying to be mean, because I'm not. If you were MY daughter, I would sit you down and tell you FIRMLY:
1.) You do not know if you should call off the wedding or 'give it a shot.' Attention, please: YOU are not 'giving it a shot.' You and your fiance and FIVE (soon to be SIX) CHILDREN are giving it a shot! If it was just YOU and fiance, that would be one thing. But there are numerous children to be considered...not just 2 adults. You are going to be dragging 6 children through this attempt at marriage.
2.) You fell in love rather quickly. No, I think you 2 fell in LUST rather quickly. You haven't even KNOWN each other for 6 months. You can't love him; he can't love you: You don't even KNOW each other yet!
3.) You resent the fact that you are pregnant now. It is no wonder with 5 kids, 2 full-time jobs, both in school full-time. Your plates are FULL. Your first consideration should be this pregnancy!!! You 2 need to make a decision about this pregnancy (keep or terminate: I make no judgement). If you decide to keep how will you feel if this relationship ends? How will he feel? Will you always resent this child because his/her birth has been unplanned at a REALLY bad time? No-one can know but you and fiance. Figure it out FIRST THING.
4.) You're barely into this relationship and he and ex-fiancee (BTW, do you know the REASON they never married? Might be enlightening.) have already been conversing and texting. Maybe he's right and it IS over between them. How will you know? YOU don't trust him. He's told you it's over with the ex. Then he puts passwords on his emails and texts so there is no verification for you. (Not that it would make any difference because he could open another email account at any time and cell phones are cheap.)
If you go into this marriage with these serious doubts, in such a short time, just because you're pregnant, YOU WILL BOTH REGRET IT. And maybe you could live with that. Can the children??