So -- today is such a good example of what I've been going through with my DH. He's been unemployed for 3 months - since he followed me to a new city -- where I was transferred. I am the bread winner. He is a very talented person in the same field. So, I got him a week's worth of work with my employer -- freelance. We've worked at the same place for many years..as I have opened doors for him. Well, today -- on his second day at work --He told his supervisor that he wasn't well enough trained on some computers and he didn't feel comfortable doing what he'd been asked of him ---(even though they trained him last month on these computers).
He texted ALL day about how awful my co-workers were.. "I hate this place -- I don't know how you haven't gone postal" was one of his texts.
THEN -- he ran into the president of the company in the hallway. He had dinner with him (since he's my husband and I was just hired). Well, the Pres of company didn't automatically recognize him and he apologized and told him (and people nearby) that he felt terrible since he had just had dinner with him (and me) a few weeks ago. Pres of company said "I even sat next to you". So my hubby says "No, you sat face to face with me...and you still didn't recognize me" (he said half-jokingly) Pres: "I thought I sat next to you". DH "Nope, you said across from me. Pres: "It must have been your lovely wife - and (another lady) who I stared at instead of you...buddy". (He said jokingly). DH: "well, your wife was there...why didn't you stare at her?"
My DH actually told me this play by play tonight...as proof that no one liked him ...and that even the Pres of the company was taking "cheap shots" at him.
When I told my DH that he needs to realize that he is very lucky that the pres of the company even stopped to chat...he made light of it. He said that everyone was just "rude" and he couldn't believe how awful of a day he had. When I suggested that he be more careful and respectful with how he speaks with people -- he said "I'm sorry -- I'm such a failure"....
So -- here's the deal. My husband was not sabotaging on purpose. That is truly how he acts. He doesn't "get it" and realize that he was being so crazy.. he truly thinks "i" am overreacting. Maybe I am? What do you think? I just think this is all going to look very bad for ME? And I'm currently the only one with a paycheck!
He texted ALL day about how awful my co-workers were.. "I hate this place -- I don't know how you haven't gone postal" was one of his texts.
THEN -- he ran into the president of the company in the hallway. He had dinner with him (since he's my husband and I was just hired). Well, the Pres of company didn't automatically recognize him and he apologized and told him (and people nearby) that he felt terrible since he had just had dinner with him (and me) a few weeks ago. Pres of company said "I even sat next to you". So my hubby says "No, you sat face to face with me...and you still didn't recognize me" (he said half-jokingly) Pres: "I thought I sat next to you". DH "Nope, you said across from me. Pres: "It must have been your lovely wife - and (another lady) who I stared at instead of you...buddy". (He said jokingly). DH: "well, your wife was there...why didn't you stare at her?"
My DH actually told me this play by play tonight...as proof that no one liked him ...and that even the Pres of the company was taking "cheap shots" at him.
When I told my DH that he needs to realize that he is very lucky that the pres of the company even stopped to chat...he made light of it. He said that everyone was just "rude" and he couldn't believe how awful of a day he had. When I suggested that he be more careful and respectful with how he speaks with people -- he said "I'm sorry -- I'm such a failure"....
So -- here's the deal. My husband was not sabotaging on purpose. That is truly how he acts. He doesn't "get it" and realize that he was being so crazy.. he truly thinks "i" am overreacting. Maybe I am? What do you think? I just think this is all going to look very bad for ME? And I'm currently the only one with a paycheck!