I have been reading a lot on here and I am recognizing that my marriage is in much worse shape than I like to think. I booked an appt with a therapist - to start therapy again -solo. My DH and I did therapy awhile back -- and as soon as I let my guard down - he stopped going.
Here's where we are: We just moved across country for my new job (company transfer)...my husband didn't want to wait until we moved. He came along and turned down the job that was offered to him when we arrived. He's unemployed now -- and "looking". He's freelance at my company this week (we work in the same field) and he's insulted the pres of the company...and arrived late 2 of the 3 days. He's VERY talented -- but he's a tough nut to crack and he's making me look bad.
We don't have sx. When we do -- it's over in seconds. (long running issue)...Last time -- he just apologized and got in the shower.
He's always complaining about something.. this morning he walked into MY office as I was typing an email at work ...and he had a hard drive and pushed me out of the way. Told me that he needed to download something on MY computer? It was for one of his freelance projects...I was in the middle of working!
He's just not all that kind... even though he means well (most of the time). I tried to talk with him last night about his abrasive nature and asked him to try and monitor that ..since he is making me look bad at work! He just started in on how he was "a failure" and can "never do anything right"....
I just feel trapped. I'm trapped financially right now...and emotionally. I don't want to get a divorce...and I really just don't know what to do.
What would you do?
Here's where we are: We just moved across country for my new job (company transfer)...my husband didn't want to wait until we moved. He came along and turned down the job that was offered to him when we arrived. He's unemployed now -- and "looking". He's freelance at my company this week (we work in the same field) and he's insulted the pres of the company...and arrived late 2 of the 3 days. He's VERY talented -- but he's a tough nut to crack and he's making me look bad.
We don't have sx. When we do -- it's over in seconds. (long running issue)...Last time -- he just apologized and got in the shower.
He's always complaining about something.. this morning he walked into MY office as I was typing an email at work ...and he had a hard drive and pushed me out of the way. Told me that he needed to download something on MY computer? It was for one of his freelance projects...I was in the middle of working!
He's just not all that kind... even though he means well (most of the time). I tried to talk with him last night about his abrasive nature and asked him to try and monitor that ..since he is making me look bad at work! He just started in on how he was "a failure" and can "never do anything right"....
I just feel trapped. I'm trapped financially right now...and emotionally. I don't want to get a divorce...and I really just don't know what to do.
What would you do?