My post is not for myself, but more insight into a friend. I don't know exactly what is going on their head, or all the details, but I will do my best to explain the situation.
First, my friend is male and I am female. Some of my concern comes from the lingering feelings I have for him, but I am not as active within his life since he began dating his fiance so it has helped keep my feelings in check.
My friend is struggling financially. I know that has caused him a lot of stress, and I tried to remain supportive even though he had a girlfriend to support him if he needed it. They decided to move in together, although he was unable to sell his house (too much of a loss to sell) so he rents it. His stress began about two years ago, when he began a new job, and he often refers to it when I ask how things are going with him.
I haven't seen much or heard much from him since he moved in with his girlfriend a few months ago. What I do know, is that after moving in, he played hours of an online game every day (and I'm imagining not at home when she was there but more likely when he was supposed to be working or when she wasn't around). We both like this website and games, so I saw his username appear frequently on the high scores tally.
To me, it seems odd he would play so much when he was adjusting to a new environment, but maybe that was part of the reason he played so much - is moving in with someone a difficult and stressful adjustment? Is that something that would warrant 5-6 hours of game playing a day to distract yourself? As a female, I would think moving in together would be exciting and hopefully a positive thing - not something that would stress you out. Why do guys stress out when they move in with their girlfriends?
First, my friend is male and I am female. Some of my concern comes from the lingering feelings I have for him, but I am not as active within his life since he began dating his fiance so it has helped keep my feelings in check.
My friend is struggling financially. I know that has caused him a lot of stress, and I tried to remain supportive even though he had a girlfriend to support him if he needed it. They decided to move in together, although he was unable to sell his house (too much of a loss to sell) so he rents it. His stress began about two years ago, when he began a new job, and he often refers to it when I ask how things are going with him.
I haven't seen much or heard much from him since he moved in with his girlfriend a few months ago. What I do know, is that after moving in, he played hours of an online game every day (and I'm imagining not at home when she was there but more likely when he was supposed to be working or when she wasn't around). We both like this website and games, so I saw his username appear frequently on the high scores tally.
To me, it seems odd he would play so much when he was adjusting to a new environment, but maybe that was part of the reason he played so much - is moving in with someone a difficult and stressful adjustment? Is that something that would warrant 5-6 hours of game playing a day to distract yourself? As a female, I would think moving in together would be exciting and hopefully a positive thing - not something that would stress you out. Why do guys stress out when they move in with their girlfriends?