Goldmember357

In your opinion?

Truly happy both people are truly in love with each other and there is no abuse and no cheating there is almost no lying if not any, they love each other and will be together for the rest of their lives the sex life is great and they live and need each other. The truly are in love bodies crave each other they have commitment, intimacy and passion.

What % of people will ever have this type of marriage in the entire world?

2nd_t!me iz_best

the only one i know for sure about is mine.
i would have to give that a 0% being truly happy.

PBear

Most people are on this site because the were googling ways to fix their broken marriage. I think your data may not come from impartial sources. And as many of us know, our marriages looked so good to everyone else, as the problems were hidden. So trying to guess overall is pretty pointless too...

Just saying.

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Hopefull363

The way that question is asked, you might as well have said how many of you have the PERFECT marriage. I can't answer this question because I love my husband and I'm mostly happy currently in our marriage BUT there are always some things that could be better. Nobodies perfect.

Trickster

With all the people who I know... I think it's a small percentage of really happy marriages. Nothing is perfect. I also know single people who would love to be married and are not really happy single. But for your poll 10% may be close.

waiwera

This is impossible to know/answer...

Each of us can only really know about our own marriage. I'm often amazed at the couples who split...and the ones that last.

Or we could vote then all go find a online pie chart or bar graph to prove whatever % we choose, the internet is good like that!

My question is " what is a truly happy marriage' ?

Is it one without conflict and issues?

OR

Is it one that deals with conflict well and leaves spouses feeling the issue is resolved/being worked on.

Goldmember - what do you define as a truly happy marriage?

ShawnD

My parents have a marriage like that. They've been together more than 30 years and they're still best friends.

Grand total? I would say they are in the extreme minority. I thought I had some major psychological problems when I was depressed, but now I'm starting to realize that I'm actually one of the most stable people I know. An overwhelming majority of people are totally insane. I like my friends, but I can't imagine what it would be like to live with them. It would suck so bad.

that_girl

My marriage is happy. Now. Lots of work went into it and lots of love goes into maintaining it.

But I have no idea about the percentages.

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PBear

That's the other issue... Marriages are a living, changing thing. They go through good periods and bad. Can a marriage be great for 75% of the time, and then fail? Sure can.

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Beowulf

What do you consider truly happy? Your question is too subjective to provide a reasonable answer.

anchorwatch

I can't vote. Why? I have no clue what really goes on under other couple's roofs. I guess a better question might have been how do you rate your own. As for my own marriage...right now I'm saying I'm very happy with it. Was it like that all the time? NO! But I do know it can be.

SimplyAmorous

I will agree, most marraiges seem to HIDE their problems so very well...they don't want to burden other people or look Bad, everyone wants the aire of "perfection" and honor...... then so many are shocked... "WHAT, they are getting a divorce! How can it be"!@#$%^

We can only rate our own...to our personal standards of what we call ...Happiness. Even the happiness bar can be different lenghts.

I also feel even the best of marriages ....has imperfections ...but they would still quality for your words.... for a Truly happy passionate loving sexually fullfiiing marraige where a couple grows old together -still with a face that radiates - with an ocean of beautiful memories, a legacy -they will both leave behind -in the hearts of those who knew them.

*** I think when you meet a couple...if you are looking very closely.....it does SHOW ....you feel a warmness between them... an openness , a sense of ease immediately....you notice how they look at each other.... how they respond to each other. If they don't do these things.. no matter what comes out of their mouth, or how big of they wear separately.....either they are having #1 a bad day... or #2... they are not as fullfilled as they would like to be. Very possibly.


People who know ME personally, know I am not the hider type, if I had a rant...I RANT loudly, even boldly... I wear my feelings on my sleeve ...around friends that is.

When I didn't like my step mom, I blackened her name. Not very nice of me .... but I needed to vent. Good thing my husband is a wonderful man !! He'd probably have to divorce me just to shut my mouth. (I am exaggerating of course).

In my Mops group, towards the end, I was the one they came to with their intimate questions, cause I always got those ladies talking dirty. Many of them seemed to complain about their husbands, I couldn't relate. I think the only thing I would say against my man is (in all these yrs).... I wish he talked a little more (and be more aggressive in bed - I told a few of them that)... The majority of those Mom's came off enjoying their kids more so... I wanted to ditch my kids & be with my husband, I was the odd ball.

I feel we have THIS type of marraige.

But let me say... Ours has... for the most part, been a pretty smooth ride.....never any serious health issues (my biggest worries in life!)....he's never been laid off, our compatibility is undeniable, we have managed our life very well financially (both frugal) & in raising our kids (big on consequences), communication always good & now that we finally opened up about sex & realized where we missed it = this has SO increased the happiness bar.


Every marraige will have some BAD times... angry moments, misundertandings, CONFLICT, FIGHTS , PMS ....this is all normal....Storms will come, external pressures will visit our door...

I think the key is... are we still holding hands during these storms.... do we still call each other ?...tackling these problems together as a team... still each others biggest fan....

When the "US" becomes "I" or the "We" becomes about "ME" (only takes one partner slipping away).... this is where the "couples" happiness takes a a slow dive...or so I feel.

I would never say we are perfect, but we happily EMBRACE our imperfections ...and love each other anyway.

Love this song about such a marriage - one of my favorites:

Matthew Ward: Perfect Union - YouTube

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Goldmember357

I kind of said in OP

Truly happy marriage has commitment, passion, intimacy and is thus the "consummate love" also known as the "true love".

There is no Cheating, very little to no Lying, they consider each other best friends, they desire each other almost all the time both would rather die than live without one another.


Certainly a happy marriage cannot have a liar or a person who abuses the other or cheats on the other (imo) but who knows.

I am not implying that the people have to always be happy 24/7 that is impossible however they do not abuse one another there is no lying, no cheating and no addiction or anything of that sort.

omega

The only marriage I know anything about is my own, which is indeed truly happy. There is none of the stuff you list (cheating, lying, abuse, etc), we are crazy in love with each other, and any problems we have are all external to the marriage itself (financial, health, work). But I can't speak about anyone else's marriage.

omega

our 2nd anniversary is in a few days.