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Re: Why Do Women Let Themselves Go Once They're Married?
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Originally Posted by bogey
Once settled in, most women just seem to let themselves go, why is that? I have friends that are married also and they agree the girl they dated and feel in love with is not the same woman they are married to now. The consensus is it happens after kids, once she assumes the 'mom' role, but the sad thing is my wife and I don't have any kids and she's already let yourself go. Over the past 2 months she's gained 15 pounds, her hair is left unkempt, she's stopped doing little things like manicures and pedicures, etc. she still tries to dress sexy like she did when we were dating but it just looks sloppy now in her current state. It's unfortunate because my wife is HOT when she takes care of herself, but now I'm afraid she's gonna stop caring now that she's 'settled'..and she has the nerve to get mad at me when she catches me watching porn
did she 'let herself go' after you started watching porn, pushing her and disrespecting her in other ways im sure?
Re: Why Do Women Let Themselves Go Once They're Married?
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Originally Posted by bogey
Once settled in, most women just seem to let themselves go, why is that? I have friends that are married also and they agree the girl they dated and feel in love with is not the same woman they are married to now. The consensus is it happens after kids, once she assumes the 'mom' role, but the sad thing is my wife and I don't have any kids and she's already let yourself go. Over the past 2 months she's gained 15 pounds, her hair is left unkempt, she's stopped doing little things like manicures and pedicures, etc. she still tries to dress sexy like she did when we were dating but it just looks sloppy now in her current state. It's unfortunate because my wife is HOT when she takes care of herself, but now I'm afraid she's gonna stop caring now that she's 'settled'..and she has the nerve to get mad at me when she catches me watching porn
Seriously? You expect her to be some step-ford wife and be perfect? We are not barbie dolls. Not every woman can be a size 0, have perfect boobs, perfect hair, perfect make-up. I am so happy that my husband loves me for me. He doesn't care if I gained a few pounds, I hardly ever wear make-up, who has money to always get mani/pedis? Yes we tend to get comfortable with someone we love and expect them to love us for who we are not for just what we look like. Porn is all fine and dandy, but it shouldn't be because you fine her unattractive anymore. From what I read, she can do better then you....just saying...
Re: Why Do Women Let Themselves Go Once They're Married?
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Originally Posted by ShawnD
If your sexual skills are second place to a HAND then you should probably find some kind of sex skills coach or something.
Why are you making a personal attack?
If you think that all men only use porn excissivley if they have a wife who is not a porn star in bed you are nieve. There are many men who get to prefer porn even when they have a wife who is wild (for lack of a better word) in bed.
Re: Why Do Women Let Themselves Go Once They're Married?
I didn't read all your posts... One thing comes to my mind though. Post marriage do you and your wife share responsibilities equally? (e.g. cooking, cleaning, chores etc) If your wife is getting overloaded with work she won't have enough time and energy to take care of herself. Something to think about
Re: Why Do Women Let Themselves Go Once They're Married?
Bogey:
You do not speak lovingly about your wife; you are focused on what she looks like to boost your ego that you have a "hot" wife. Your wife picks up this feeling from you, and she may even be gaining weight because of her resentment of your attitude toward her.
Your generalizations about most women, gathered from your impressions and that of a few friends, speaks volumes about your attitude. How fit are you? Have you gained any weight since marriage? Metabolism does slow down as we age, and we need to make an effort to keep the weight off.
You need to help her shop for and cook healthy food. You need to exercise together. It should be a project for both of you to stay in shape. Do not attack her without looking at your own contribution to the relationship.
Re: Why Do Women Let Themselves Go Once They're Married?
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Originally Posted by LadyFrogFlyAway
If you go under someone's username, there is a link that lets you find all threads and posts by them. (Everyone should do this for LadyFrog, immediately )
i know how to do it, just takes too much effort.
wanted the easy way.
for you to provide a link in here
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