01-15-2013, 03:03 PM
Join Date: Jan 2013
| | Re: Online Dating: your thoughts
On line dating: my thoughts....
Stay away! if you are traditional, have some moral values on promiscuous lifestyles and feel strongly about them! best to avoid the on line dating!
I met my wife on line, too many white lies to hang on to you when they find out you are a catch or as someone put it.. a pearl!
she had been on line for many years and had lots of "fun" built up, failed relationships, one nights, weirdos, abusers and some just plain old getting your oil changed cus she could! of course I found out most of this after we were engaged and married, yes I was naive to the whole on line dating, she was my first on line date!
It is rare but I am sure there are some reserved people on there? people that use it to meet and try to get to know someone, unfortunitly most learn to deceive to get what they want, the men are the best at it, they lie about their status about everything and pray on the insecurity and vulnerability of wemon just out of marriages etc! wemon I found for the most part were up front and agressive, sex and having fun is what drives "most" on line dating in the beginning.
If you are strong and secure, know exactly what you want and will not settle for less and are patient with your desires, I guess you can meet Mr/Mrs Right on line, but as many have said on here, you will have to sit through dinners, movies, drinks, coffee talks and yes of course the biggest drawing card... "sex time" to find them!
Yes I sound bias and I did meet my wife which I love very much on line, but after 5 years it still causes trouble, it took her years to learn, I am not the guys you sacked with from your old on line days, someone you treated like crap cus you knew you can toss them aside for the next one who was just a e-mail away!
yep on line dating can build up huge Baggage in a person who has spent a long time there, they get into a mind set and routine that can be hard to break when they do meet the right one, why, becuse they have had everything there own way for years....except learning how to live and share with one person that will be with them every day for the rest of their lives.
Baggage, sorry, but if you choose to give it a shot, just be prepared to meet people who have been through an abundance of people in many ways, they will have slept with lots, cus that the on line theory of how you get to realy know someone!! they will have had lots of good time and seen lots with former boy/girl friends and have a mind set...so,dont give them too much too soon, if there worth it they will wait and if they care for you they wont pressure, but if you just want your oil changed by any old grease monkey, you will be in the right place to have that done...good luck!