Go for your run....think about your husband and what you love most about him. Think about when you met your husband and how giddy you'd get. Text him something dirty.... Seriously! Crush on your man!!!
And keep thinkin of your crush in the morning...all nasty and boogers in the eye, scratchin his ass and squeezin' out a big one.
It's about someone taking interest...which spouses sometimes forget to do because they're out in the world PROVIDING for our FAMILIES
Ignite your own fire for your marriage. Don't wait for your husband to do it. Just start. It's not a score keeping thing...just do it! Text him something naughty and when he replies, say nothing more. Do something for yourself that makes you feel sexy and flirt with your man.
We're getting our happines back she looked him up on fb out of curiosity,then she started acting like a teenage girl,thing snowballed,nothing physical but I kicked her out of the house.Came real close to file for D.She wishes now she never would have had that crush on him,almost lost it all. Posted via Mobile Device
I don't even think she should tell her husband. She just had thoughts...unless she's calling/texting him all the time.
I think she should just shift her focus to her husband.
Everything she has stated indicates she is in an EA. So she is in trouble. Your advice is ceratinly dead on as far as her shifting her focus. I think she is playing with real danger here though. Not so sure she will be able to just switch this off. Why risk it? This seems more than a H.S. girl crush. She is 28. She has already indicated she does not think of her marriage and is unsure she would resist this guy.
EAs do not need texts and email to flourish. Contact works great. EAs are all about thoughts and feelings. These seem to be leading to the edge. She is already starting to think ahead to what she might do and is unsure. She is in the confused stage as her brain has shifted from her husband to this other guy she really admires.
I am not sure that telling her husband would help. He should just insist she quit school. He would be very hurt no matter what.
I would say something like, "babe, I realized myself getting attracted to other people and realizing our marriage is missing some excitement. i don't want other people...i want you. So...it's time to fan the fire a bit "
Point is, she is aware, she doesn't want to be in it, and she isn't making many excuses, that I can tell. To make this super heavy will defeat the purpose of setting her marriage on fire. She got sucked in but she can easily refocus and pull herself out.
Can she? Can people in EAs just turn it off? Maybe some can. Most have to choose to go NC. I hope she can just turn it off because she needs to without delay. I hope you can talk her off the proverbial ledge.
I don't think the danger here is that she will start texting him a lot. I think the danger is her stopping by his apartment after classes.