lovelygirl

I'm 24, still virgin.
It has nothing to do with religion [I'm not a religious type btw].
I'm just waiting for the right moment/guy. For someone I truly care about.
I've had many chances to lose my virginity. Lately I was offered to be in a "friends with benefits" casual relationship with a guy friend of mine.
Thta's not how I want to lose my virginity or have sex.

There are some guy friends in my cycle of friends who say virginity is a deal breaker to them.

I'm not ashamed to admit my virginity and at the same time I don't brag about it. It's just my pesonal choice and I don't want men to judge me over that.
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Would you be in a relationship with a virgin girl/woman?

lovelygirl

But I also think that a man who doesn't respect my virginity is not a man worth having.

Browncoat

It wasn't a deal breaker for me with my wife, and she was just a bit older than you when we met (and still was a virgin).

Don't just give away your v-card to some random dude. Not worth it at all.

Don't just be a friends with benefits, save yourself for someone you really love. Let it be a gift to that person, don't just toss it away 'cuz.

The man that falls in love with you, and you with him, will love you for you... not love you for your sexual experience.

that_girl

Not a deal breaker. Just so long as when we'd do it, the person had a High Drive like myself.

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SlowlyGettingWiser

I guess I'm the only one who feels this way, but I do not think your virginity is anything to be especially respected. The only thing to be respected is your right to make whatever choices you make regarding your body.

A virgin? That is your choice and I respect YOU and your right to make it.

Not a virgin? That is your choice and I respect YOU and your right to make it.

By suggesting that a man must respect your 'virginity,' you are implying that he has less reason to respect you once you have given it to someone. You are just as respectable to me whether you choose to be a virgin or choose to be a non-virgin.

THAT being said, I am very proud of you for making your OWN choices, free of pressure from others!

~I'm a woman, and I'm 55yo

lovesherman

I don't understand the current mindset that you are supposed to lose your virginity in high school. To me it devalues sex as a physical act only. I think there are many people who wish that they had fewer partners, or had waited until they were older so that they understood the power of sex to bond you to another person.

As others have said, when you find that special guy, he will be thrilled that you were willing to wait for him. It means so much more when it is not given away casually.

chillymorn

as long as she was a sexuall person,someone who could openly talk about what thet like and had an overall good open minded attitude about sex in general.

But if she had some unusal inhabitions or was not willing to make sex fun and exciting learn about it together then it would be a deal breaker.

Jeff/BC

I don't respect your virginity... it's a piece of flesh. It's not like it's some grand prize or somesuch.

What I absolutely positively DO respect is your right to pick who your first (and subsequent) sexual encounters will be with.

For me personally, it wouldn't matter one way or the other. I don't evaluate life partners on the basis of their sexual prowess.

SA's husband

When I met my wife I was taken by her beauty, having sex was not on my mind. I wanted to get to know her, there should be no rush to have sex. She made me wait a very long time, till we married. It was not a dealbreaker for me because I was in love.

If a man is not willing to wait, it is not a good sign.

Browncoat

Yep, if he doesn't want to wait... there's a very very good chance he just wants to get into your pants but just isn't that into you.

that_girl

What about if a woman doesn't want to wait? I'm serious...

I tried waiting once for a man I cared for to have sex. Waited over 6 months. Just odd. It didn't last. He was weird in bed.

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lovelygirl

You're totally right! That's the point I was trying to make.
Someone who will be by my side should do it whether I'm virgin or not. My virginity should not make any difference to him as long as he loves me for who I am.
Even if I weren't a virgin, I'd like him to love me just the same.

It's just that some guys think this is odd and they wouldn't date a virgin girl. I wonder why would this matter to them!

lovelygirl

That's right!
I don't want to be appreciated/underappreciated because of my lack of sexual experience or virginity.

lovelygirl

If a woman doesn't want to wait then that's fine. She doesn't have to wait if she feels like having sex.
It's her choice.

sillygurl

I lost my virginity to my husband, then boy friend. I went ahead only because I was 100% sure that we are getting married.