Cee Paul

.....that they still hangout with and do stuff with while married or in a serious relationship? Well with some people that have totally open minds they can still do that, but the minute that let's say Bob(fake name)starts getting in the way of my time with my wife and interrupting our plans - there's gonna be a huuuuge problem with that!

gav

No.

Entropy3000

No

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frazaled

Not any more but until he cheated on me with one of our mutual friends I never had a problem with it ...how silly was I.

2nd_t!me iz_best

No

Gratitude

They can but it's a risk. I don't believe in opening that gateway. Protect your marriage at all costs.

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Ittakestwo

I do not think that it is a healthy thing for a relationship to have either partner/spouse spending alone time with a friend of the opposite sex. If they come over to the house when both spouses are home or they all go out together...maybe as long as it is not taking time away from the time the marriage needs to be healthy.

I feel that each spouse deserves the respect of not having any situation that could appear to be an affair or the possibility of one.

IMHO

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Mavash.

No.

Numb in Ohio

I agree with the majority.. No way

Jeff/BC

Heh... Somewhere in the human genome is this compulsion to tell other people what to do... how life works... how to run their lives... to control them.

How about you let me worry about what works in my life?

lovesherman

Add my voice to the chorus here. You are giving your time, emotional energy, and affection to a friend. It is way too easy to cross that line into an EA and then a PA. I do not do anything with, or confide in any guy except my brother, and I would not want my husband to have a female friend.

lovesherman

This puzzles me. The forum is a place for advice. You take what applies to you, and discard the rest. No one is controlling anyone else here.

Cee Paul

When I met my ex she had a couple of male "friends" that she was hanging out and going places with, and she said it was all platonic and that she had known them for several years. So when we got together and got engaged I of course wanted to spend more and more time with her, and I evntually moved in like most people tend to do. But when these male "friends" kept wanting to hang around and one was meeting her for lunch because they worked in the same company, this became a biiiig problem and I finally stepped in and put a stop to it which ended up in several fights later on over it, and she accused me of being "controlling" at least 50 times during those several arguements.

Dollystanford

yep, I've got male friends that I've had since I was 18 who I adore but have no sexual feeling for in any way, never have had

my H never had a problem with them, their girlfriends/wives never had a problem with me - they've never needed to

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