My wife is no longer affectionate to me.
I wanted to ask for others' input and thoughts. My wife and I have been married for 3 years. This is the second marriage for both of us. We have good communication between us and have discussed both of our feelings in this area. During our 2 years of dating prior to marriage and through over a year of marriage she was affectionate verbally and physically. during the last year and a half this has dropped off signigicantly. She is very affectionate with her friends, family and even co-workers; hugging them, etc. She cuddles with our dog through out the day. At times she is afectionate when we are watching TV and snuggles up to me. Our sex life has considerably decreased from easily 7 to 10 times a week, to now closer to 2 or 3 times a month, and once a month for the last 2 months "...as long as its quick". When we go to bed, I usually move to put my arms around her, and am often asked "can I just lie here for a while?" afterwhich she falls asleep. She has recently said she wakes up feeling uncomfortable and doesnt want to make love in the morning.
A request for a kiss during the day is often met with a response of " I kissed you this morning" or "it's distracting for you to hug me or kiss me during the day".
The last 18 months have been full issues for her, including illnesses and injuries for several or her family members, the sudden death of a long time friend, stressful issues with our children (each has children from previous relationships, none together), work stresses and a life threatening injury to our dog.
She says that she loves me. We enjoy being together and generally have a great life together. It's just the dwindling affection is making me fell rejected and almost more like a roomate at times.
Several times over the last few months she has told me how my she appreciates me being patient when she doesn feel affectionate. I feel bad for saying this, but I'm tired of being patient. Is this wrong for me to feel?