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the definition of full figured is subjective.. just like "skinny" is.. i dunno why it's become such a debatable term.
i'm not sure why that implies that i couldnt get a date.. when i have a husband... i've also been dating since i was 14. some people are genuinely attracted to ladies with something to hold on to... it may not be your cup of tea, but there's no reason to be **** about it.
when i went to jamaica a man said to me, "meat is for man... bone is for dog"... when i went to italy men were whistling and rubbing on me. in greece they were grinding on me to their "awesome" techno music. in scotland i had men buy me whiskey in a stone built pub.. i've enjoyed a frappe with a gentleman near tower bridge in London... i think i've had just as good a life and as many great experiences with men as any skinny chick. so to say i "couldnt get a date" just shows that you wouldnt have the abilility to get to know a woman who's physical appearance wasnt what you consider nice... and i think they call that "shallow"...
Full figured means "Fat but trying to get a date".
No guarantee of femininity in fact the odds are rather low.
That's the difference between what it actually means and what people use it to mean.
Online dating has a lot of slang you need to get accustomed to:
curvy = very fat
overweight = very fat
full figured = very fat
average = fat
skinny = normal
athletic = normal but can run up stairs without blacking out
bisexual = not actually bisexual, but expanding the dating pool out of desperation
man's man = mentally retarded
like to have fun = mentally retarded
aspiring artist = unemployed
entrepreneur = unemployed
thinking of going back to school = lie; say this so people don't judge me for working at starbucks
random = I don't understand human interaction and must resort to saying weird things just for shock value
Sometimes entrepreneur can actually mean that the person is successfully self employed. I agree that "artist" or "music producer" means "broke ass who lives on pipe dreams".
I once described myself as "medium build" to a blind date. He gasped when he saw me. "You're not fat!" I never said I was fat. Medium means between small and large right?
I am currently the largest I have ever been. I am also the happiest. I wear a size twelve at a height of 5'4. My booty is round and attracts attention. My boobs are pert and large. I love my body except for my stomach. Probiotics and eating more veggies and fruits have helped a great deal. I also think that once I get off the pill, I will lose some of the weight I gained when I went on it. Hormonal birth control always makes me pack on pounds and they fall off as soon as I get off the BC.
Jamaican men love a woman with some meat. "Fat" is a compliment in the Jamaican community. My husband is not Jamaican, yet he loves me at this size much more than when I was a size 8. Constant butt slapping and boob honking in our marriage.
People do not want to change eating habits because they love food too much for that. It is much easier and more fun to just eat what you want, without counting every calorie. Exercising can be very painful, which is why some people avoid it. I have found that walking is the easiest for me. It is fun and low impact. No disgusting sweat or pain from that.
i am full figured woman - im 5 5" and 280lbs.. but i have always been this size. i was this size when my hubs met me, dated me, and married me. i've never met his parents... maybe he's preparing me for them?
i dunno should I just do it and say "thank you"?
I really don't want to come off as rude here, but at 5' 5'', and nearly 300 pounds, you are not "full figured", you are morbidly, dangerously obese.
Liposuction is designed for people who are far slimmer, and just want to suction out relatively small amounts of fat in order to enhance their already smaller figures. It is not designed for people who are very overweight, and obese, as it wouldn't really make much of a difference.
Lipo is not what you need. A commitment to a serious exercise program, and a total overhaul of your eating habits, is what you really need. As someone who has lost family members to obesity related illnesses, I strongly urge you to wake up and take control of this before it destroys your entire life.
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Exercising can be very painful, which is why some people avoid it. I have found that walking is the easiest for me. It is fun and low impact. No disgusting sweat or pain from that.
I think that depends largely on how you walk. I too love to walk, and I do 7.5-8 miles, four times a week, at a brisk pace. Trust me, by the time I'm finished I am soaked in sweat, and my legs are feeling the tension.
hmm.. not sure what that means.. not sure how he's preparing them for me when they dont know about me. either way... it's a subject that has fizzled between us. we've decided to invest our money elsewhere.
i'm thinking more about gastric bypass, but i dont have insurance. my enrollment peroid at work isnt until october. medical tourism sounds like a nice option as well. until then, i guess...
how if i got the lipo and my gut was smaller he'd love to see me in corsetts and sexier clothing.
I'm sorry I couldn't read anymore WITHOUT responding to this. First of all.. sit ups will get rid of said gut.. You just need to put in the EFFORT to do it. If your not fond of sit ups.. there are exercises that help slim down your body as well as equipment.
Taebo
Yoga
Two very good exercises that help tone your body...
Ab circle pro
treadmill
total gym
There is more equipment you can use but the three i listed are also very great in aiding with toning your body through a natural and healthy process.
Diet... does not mean you go on a strict eat salads ONLY ... Some programs that can help you figure out what KIND of diet you need are...
Nutrisystem
Jenny craig
Weight watchers
I'm sure there are more but ALL these listed are MUCH better options then LIPO.
LIPO is nothing but a LAZY way out and has to many DANGEROUS risks. It may SEEM like a great INSTANT fix... but it's not. I've known someone who DIED due to going through with a LIPO surgery.
Or you could right now, stop indulging in eating high sodium/high calorie food and get off the couch and actually get some exercise.
Yeah but why? Obviously, people eat for a reason - they really enjoy food. I didn't really understand this until I started taking a certain sleep medication. Now I get it. Food is delicious! (but only after taking medication)
i'm thinking more about gastric bypass, but i dont have insurance. my enrollment peroid at work isnt until october. medical tourism sounds like a nice option as well. until then, i guess...
You don't need gastric bypass. You could have the majority of your weight lost in a year, or less, if you dig deep down and find a way to change your eating, and get active. Heck, you could be well on your way by the time October enrollment rolls around.
Saying that you don't have insurance, therefore you can't do anything, is a cop out. When a person is truly ready to change their lives, they do it. Take it from someone who's been where you are.
And please don't think GB is a fix all. My sisters best friend, and my wife's former poss, women who were larger than you, got the procedure done.They both lost a lot of weight, but guess what? They didn't change any of their habits, stalled while they were still morbidly obese, and overtime stretched their stomachs right back out and are as large as she was when they started.
Gastric bypass is totally unnecessary in many cases, and can actually be counterproductive in the long run if you don't learn the benefits of proper nutrition, exercise, and self control.
The problem I see is trying to be something for your partner that HE wants you to be...you show through your posts how low your self esteem is-that's what bothers me about this whole thread
Listen, I've been skinny,slightly overweight and grossly overweight. The question to consider-is which body type do you identify with? What do you consider healthy for you? Could you imagine yourself much thinner-or is your identity wrapped up in your fat deposits?
I always hated working out in the gym so a couple of years ago I took a job in a warehouse(running around all day) to lose the weight(and get paid! )...I lost 60lbs in two months- and NEVER felt exhausted or bored while doing it.
No man or woman will convince me even at my heaviest that I was okay having rolls of fat on me. It was embarrassing going for walks at my heaviest(200lbs 5'3) and getting tired after 5 minutes! I had a food addiction but hid behind the "I'm ok you're ok mentality".
Truth be told-if it was 100 years ago, you'd be skinny girl. Our seditary lives,sad excuses and *let people be as fat as they want* has led to prissy-ing around the truths
Find solutions that don't mean getting put under the knife. You can get results with your stomach with stomach crunches...
The problem I see is trying to be something for your partner that HE wants you to be...you show through your posts how low your self esteem is-that's what bothers me about this whole thread
Listen, I've been skinny,slightly overweight and grossly overweight. The question to consider-is which body type do you identify with? What do you consider healthy for you? Could you imagine yourself much thinner-or is your identity wrapped up in your fat deposits?
I always hated working out in the gym so a couple of years ago I took a job in a warehouse(running around all day) to lose the weight(and get paid! )...I lost 60lbs in two months- and NEVER felt exhausted or bored while doing it.
No man or woman will convince me even at my heaviest that I was okay having rolls of fat on me. It was embarrassing going for walks at my heaviest(200lbs 5'3) and getting tired after 5 minutes! I had a food addiction but hid behind the "I'm ok you're ok mentality".
Truth be told-if it was 100 years ago, you'd be skinny girl. Our seditary lives,sad excuses and *let people be as fat as they want* has led to prissy-ing around the truths
Find solutions that don't mean getting put under the knife. You can get results with your stomach with stomach crunches...
I couldn't like this post more than once so I had to agree.
I'm not sure why there are so many critical comments on this thread - I'm sure Cory is very aware of her body image and who cares what some people define full figured or skinny as, that is not the point of this thread.
I just have to say to Cory, if you are happy with being bigger there is nothing wrong, though you seem to want to lose which is good because you will probably have a longer happier life that way. I also think if you want to lose weight and are successful in any way at it it will instill a higher self-esteem and your H will probably respond to you.
He loves you and married you as you are and want the both of you to be happier. I think lipo is a drastic measure and unecessary, though it can help give you a boost on your path to a healthier lifestyle - my Aunt had it done about 2 decades ago, not just on the tummy but all over, she shed over 120 lbs I think and has kept the weight off. But its her continued food discipline that kept it that way, the lipo was just a little shortcut and one that was quite stressful for her family to watch her do.
Good luck in what you choose just make sure you are doing it because its something you are willing to take the risk on and not being pressured by anyone else to do...
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Re: Liposuction 
I agree that "artist" or "music producer" means "broke ass who lives on pipe dreams".
I never said I was fat. Medium means between small and large right? 
