DayDream

This wouldn't bother me at all, even when I was that young. I guess I was never ashamed of having sex. Plus I grew up with four brothers and I know how guys go back and forth with that talk.

lovelygirl

It's not about being ashamed of having sex. It's about how you say you had it and to who you say it.

DayDream

Maybe he wasn't doing it in a "another notch in my belt" type of fashion. Maybe he's just proud that he's good enough to be allowed to have sex with her. Maybe the other guys are envious. Who cares? Is it really that big of a deal?

lovelygirl

It is.
They made a deal to keep it secret.
Breaking the promise diminishes the trust, tells a lot about both partner's lack of maturity and the lack of seriousness in the relationship.

monicagrace27

I suppose that feeling like this was an overreaction. I think it was also hard because we talked about it only over the phone. Now that I was able to talk to him about it in person, we both feel much better.

Thank you for your input everyone. Even though not all of it was what I wanted to hear, it was what I needed to. I realize that he and I both still have a bit of maturing to do, I'm just hoping that we can mature and grow together.