04-25-2012, 10:45 AM
Join Date: Aug 2011
| | Re: Husband's sudden disinterest in sex
Originally Posted by eagleclaw
I don't even know how to resond to this it seems so ludicrous.
It comes down to this. He wants a wife and someone to love. You want a friend. There is no way for both of you to be happy in this relationship unless you meet in the middle. NO WAY.
You are being extremely selfish, and a terrible wife. You might be the best friend in the world and extremely good to him...... but your sure as hell not being his wife.
He will get more resentful, and it will deepen until not only does he no longer love you... but he will dislike you. Cheating will be a very likely outcome as he won't care any longer about hurting you. After all... why should he.... you don't care about hurting him. And yes.... you ARE. Eventually, given the oppertunity he will most likely leave.
Those are the simple facts. It's not about him accepting you the wa you are... or writing off his needs in favour of yours... etc etc etc. This is not some fairly book movie where the princess is paralyzed and the prince takes care of her forever with nothing in return.
Real life. You want him to meet your needs.... your not interested in his because they conflict with yours. Selfish, self defeating, and terminal thinking.
The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference.