Conrad

Shocking.

Simply shocking.

Pick-Up-Artist books actually speak of how you can get out of the "friendzone" and warm her up sexually.

Of course, guys just want to be "friends".

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ShawnD

Men get lonely faster than women and this radically changes their behaviour.
I know exactly 0 men who choose to be single.
100% of the single women I know are single by choice.

It's a lot easier for a guy to comfortably stay in the friend zone if he already has a girlfriend.

Jellybeans

Nope. Plenty of men and women alike get dumped on a daily basis...where the decision to end the relationship wasn't their choice.
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Entropy3000

Agreed.

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CandieGirl

Especially if the girlfriend puts the kibosh on the friend thing. I know I would. Any boyfriend of mine with 'friends', was up to no good.

Another member put it quite eloquently, when she told her BF that he could have his friend; but that she'd be off to find a man who would be her boyfriend, and not put another woman ahead of her.

Jellybeans

Well, dude, if you look at the title of my thread...it was a question about singles. LOL.

It keeps getting derailed though to where people are talking about couples/partnered people. That wasn't the point of my thread.

Lol.

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allthegoodnamesaregone

Okay, with singles, it's the same. 92.6 % of guys with functioning testicles think about sex with a single woman who is a friend, the other 7.4% are compulsive liars ;~) The only caveat to that is if she's very unattractive.

Jeff/BC

And again, I cannot speak for "men", only myself. The answer is a "sort of". All of my lovers have always come from my circle of friends. So if I was actually looking for a mate, that's where she'd come from. So obviously, for ONE of the women in my circle of friends I would be thinking about sex with her. That woman would need to be available and interested before the sex thoughts would start.

Jellybeans

That's interesting.

My dxH and I were never "friends." We just started dating and that was it. Lol.

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Conventional wisdom is, of course, don't have sex with your friends. To me that has always seemed like lunacy. Any wife of mine would also need to be my best friend. It seems to me I'm most likely to find her among my circle of friends. I also generally have a substantive circle of female friends so again, it makes sense I'd be looking there first.

Jellybeans

That does make sense.

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Entropy3000

Thinking single now.

Even if I my feelings for a female friend are like for a sister there are indeed feelings that are different than I have for a brother or anither male friend. PLUS she is NOT my sister. Sure I have had plutonic female friends. I do think they can exist.

Forgetting the pure sexual tension that has been discussed for a moment, I still think there are feelings men will develop for women that are not manifested the same as with other men. I can love my friends. I can have love for both my male and female friends. Much of it can be similar. My feelings for a female friend are not exactly like my feelings for a male friend. Those feelings are related to us being of opposite sex. I do not think it is only about pure sexual tension. Maybe it is, but I think as my feelings develop for a female friend those feelings can be confusing. It does not mean we will have sex. But I am protective with my sister in a way I am not protective with a male friend. No I do not want to boff my sister. It is just not exactly the same as having a male friend. These are emotional feelings. They probably do have to do with testosterone. So they are not far from sexual feelings but they are for sure emotional.

Another thread but that is my issue in a married scenario. The developement of feelings. Feelings were my downfall. So these feelings can cause singles to stop becoming friends because one or the other wants further intimacy yet maybe not sex ... yet. One party or the other may want more. I think these friendships can exist none-the-less. Thinking back to my single days, I can not off hand think of a female friend, plutonic or not that I would not have responded to positively if they gave me the green light. Maybe I am flawed ...

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Jellybeans

Well I agree with that.

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