Re: Can single men & women be friends?
If I say no then I lose half my friends. :-o
Of course my guy friends are attracted to me.
They also know that I am in charge of my sexuality, so the answer will be no, until and unless it becomes yes, and then I would have to let them know that there has been a change. It's ridiculous to cut yourself off from other genders, whatever they may be. I don't think there are so many people on earth that you are supposed to learn and grow from a relationship with one individual of the opposite sex. Also, what do you do with friends who are transgender or homosexual or undecided or neutered in some way such as they are monks, etc. Nope, can't see myself learning from only 1/2 of the remaining population after I have chosen an intimate emotional/spiritual/physical partner. I think that would be very short-sighted...so I am not supposed to have any meaningful personal conversation with any opposite sex members of my Quaker Meeting/Community, with colleagues or fellow students, with people who might enjoy rock climbing, dancing cycling with me, or just having a conversation or perhaps watching sports and passing time together? If I had a ban on opposite sex friendships I would not be able to manage as my partner is in rehabilitation after brain surgery (life saving) so guess who is taking care of me during this time? My guy friends for the most part...I have a lot of non-dates. :-o Sure they are attracted to me, they also know I am crazy about my guy.