General Relationship DiscussionAlthough anyone can post anywhere on Talk About Marriage, this section is for people interested in general relationship and marriage advice.
So, while I understand that a lot of posters come here with problems and they need help and that's what this forum is partly for.
I wanted to start a thread about only good stories about our spouses, tell either a short or long story (your choice) about your spouse, either something they did for you, something you love about them, etc.
Preferrably recent stories, but old ones are fine too.
Here's mine, its kind of little, but still "got me".
My wife had a huge headache last night, so bad that 2 doses of extra strength tylenol did nothing for her.
We laid in bed and watched House the TV show together last night and I rubbed her temples to eleviate the pain. She finally dozed off and I watched some other TV shows until I was tired.
Nothing interesting so far right?
Well, our sex life has been so good and VERY active lately that she knew we would have had sex last night had she not had a headache (I obviously did nothing to push sex with how bad her headache was).
So this morning she calls me on my way to work and says "sorry I had a headache last night, I'll make up for it tonight."
She's never apologized in 9+ years of marriage for a night of "no sex" unless I made an issue out of it (being rejected, etc).
It really made my morning for her to call me and mention that she will "make up for it" tonight. When I told her that she said that she was just so thankful that even with her headache that I didn't try to push sex at all and all I did was massage her temples until she fell asleep.
One thing I love about my hubby is that he'll send me little emails from work every now and then, just to say he loves me and check and see how I'm feeling. Not every day, sometimes he doesn't even get to check his work email every day, but every now and then, he'll send me a love note, and sign it with some sweet saying.
It really makes my day, knowing he was just thinking about me, just because.
Another thing he used to do , is before we actually began dating (we met at our church, and actually knew each other for a year before he ever asked me out)... he used to bring in things he had baked for me. One time he made me scones, and then a cheesecake! He had asked me out several times, and because I had just gotten out of a bad relationship, I told him no, that I wasn't ready. So he wouldn't give up, he just kept on, and baked me things! He's a Realllly good cook,, and I'm damn lucky I guess. That was so heart warming, and to this day, after almost 5 years of being together and almost 3 of marriage, he still cooks for me every now and then. He smokes a Mean Boston Butt! ;-)
Well one sweet thing my partner has done recently was...me and our newborn daughter were sleeping on the bed and I woke up at 3am to a kiss on my cheek. He was sitting beside the bed and he said he was "admiring" us. It felt nice to know that he gives two hoots at me still...even after all that we've been through.
Over this past weekend, when our son was off at a friend's house for a couple hours, I was sitting working on the taxes and hubby went to take a shower. A little while later, he came up behind my chair and started massaging my neck. I turned to look at him and noticed he was dressed in a suit, had shaved and smelled like the cologne I like.
I got up and we started kissing and then I asked what the outfit was for. He said, "well, whenever I'm all dressed up like this, I am always rushing out the door and you don't get to take advantage of it." See, it's a huge turn-on for me to see him all dressed in button-down shirt and sport coat, smelling terrific, and the ONLY time I see that is weekday mornings when we're both rushing to get out.
I definitely got to take advantage of the situation this time. It was nice to know that he was thinking of me AND made the time for us.
My H has become really good at remembering the little things I say in passing. Usually, these are things I say at random and never think about them again. I had told the story of my complaining about my dull knife in another thread. He remembered and brought home a new one out of the blue. Last week, I was talking about how it was past time to clean out my car. He took it upon himself and did it.
Just recently, one of our children (who has been sick a great deal) came down with the flu. I had been confined to the house quite a bit with sickness. H canceled an out-of-town trip, told me to go out and take a load off, and when I returned had been cleaning out the "catch all" spare bedroom. It was all organized. I hadn't told him I needed the time out. I hadn't expected any of it. It was great! He got some big points for that one!!!
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Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud..... it always perseveres.
Last night we sat near the window and shared a piece of salmon together. It was very nice. One of the kids brought some back from a restaurant and we sat together feeding each other and the kids as they came up 'peep peeping' for food. It was quite companionable.
I was sick all weekend and my wife kept taking all 3 kids wherever she went even if it made what she had to do difficult, just so I could rest up and relax and be healthy enough for work today.
I tried to make up for it by spending 2 hours outside last night putting together my boys new basketball hoop. Man that really did drain me, I went right to bed afterwards.
We have had the most stressfull weekend ever but we pulled together and we worked through it and we are still working through it but once the children were in bed my hubbie just held me . i cried but felt so secure and wow ready to take on the rest of the world .. i so glad and proud that hes my husband
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My H has become really good at remembering the little things I say in passing. Usually, these are things I say at random and never think about them again.
Sorry to analyse you, but this is a classic. I believe that this is how women actually communicate what they really want form their husbands, but most men have no idea the amount of brownie points they would win if they only listened to these "comments made in passing". I would go as far as to say that men should write them down secretly if they are unable to act on them straight away.
My wife said something wistfully the other night, and then withdrew it the next morning - she thought it was something she will never attain. But a little voice in my head said TAKE NOTE THIS IS IMPORTANT.
Unfortunately in my case, this is going to be hard to deliver on, but I'm going to try. She literally wants the earth!
In part, yes, you're right. However, some of these cases (such as the knife), I truly wasn't hinting. To be totally honest, I'm not much on subliminal msgs. with him unless I'm teasing him (ie "I'm cold, I wonder if someone loves me enough to fill the propane tank" wink and sly grin). Nah, sometimes that stuff can end up being like a game. I'm in agreement with Drac in terms of communication. I like to say what I mean and mean what I say!
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Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud..... it always perseveres.
In part, yes, you're right. However, some of these cases (such as the knife), I truly wasn't hinting. To be totally honest, I'm not much on subliminal msgs. with him unless I'm teasing him (ie "I'm cold, I wonder if someone loves me enough to fill the propane tank" wink and sly grin). Nah, sometimes that stuff can end up being like a game. I'm in agreement with Drac in terms of communication. I like to say what I mean and mean what I say!
We might be slightly misunderstanding each other. I'm not saying you do it deliberately, I'm saying that these are moments when your inner yearnings come out - even if some of them are trivial. And he sounds like he has become sensitive enough to pick up on this.
Ok - nother good story. Friday night, we tried the Marriage fitness thing again. Just to be cheeky I suppose one of the items was "put down an action item, something you can change in yourself" he put down (get this) bone her good tonight. Well I figured he was just kidding but he wasn't!
From a DISMAL sex life over the last few years he was... wild. I'll chalk it up to a strange Hydrocodone reaction, but well, wow.
WOW.
Two hours, and he actually cared about and took care of ME. sex, wild, loving, slow, fast... everything. I had 5 orgasms. He wasn't able to come at all (strange) but wow was it fun. He wanted to keep going, but I calmed things down when I saw he wasn't going to be able to come and how frustrated he got. Good thing I did, the next two days he complained about how sore he was!
Lets just say I rather sailed thru the weekend.
When asked? he said he just 'made up his mind to do it' and did.
The only good stories thread...
but we pulled together and we worked through it and we are still working through it 
