cory275

My hubs and I joke a lot about why divorce is so common especially amongst Americans. In my hub's country they rarely divorce.. they stay in their marriage even if they are unhappy.

I think technology plays a big factor...think how much harder it would be to cheat without the internet! its so easy to reconnect with old flames through facebook and google +... does anyone else have any thoughts?

that_girl

It's easy to get and available.

You don't really need a reason...

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NextTimeAround

And that can be good since no one can cheat and stay in a marriage because it takes a long time to get divorce. I heard at one time it took 5 years of separation to get one.

Now if you cheat, the next question is simply "Why didn't you just get a divorce?"

cory275

you're saying you dont need a reason to get divorced? then why get married? no reason?

NextTimeAround

The reason to get married would be different from the reason to get a divorce.

that_girl

Dude. People get divorced because they don't want to work it out. Some people have major issues, many people just don't give a crap.

Why get married? I dunno. personal choice. People put many meanings on marriage. But you asked why the divorce rate is so high...well, it's more socially accepted and readily available.

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cory275

she said you didnt need a reason to get a divorce

that_girl

Nevermind.

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Entropy3000

Yes, it is legal to get married for no reason.

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Entropy3000

You do not need a legal reason for divorce.

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cory275

divorce has definately become a business all its own. my mom did family law for the state, but govt budget cuts made things difficult plus personal divorce is much more lucrative...

WomanScorned

I think it's because our society is one that puts emphasis on the easy way out, not on working on things if they become too 'hard' to deal with. I'm not talking about abuse. In that case there is a good reason to be divorced. But otherwise I think people for the most part are looking for the easy fix.

arbitrator

I really believe that I may not quite live long enough to see it, but at some juncture in time, I firmly believe that with the advent of no-fault divorce laws, that a divorce in the future is going to be so much easier to get. Almost to the point that I can see one of the parties filing for one, and notwithstanding the custody of children, or a division of bountiful assets; in time, I could see uncontested divorces being consumated in less than 30 days, from start to finish. I truly think that's the wave of the future! Sad but true!

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cory275

i guess i can see how divorce is the easy way out.. but when you start dividing assests and families and kids... i dunno how easy that is? "...if you're in a relationship and you break up, where does the love go?"

livelaughlovenow

I think the divorce rate is so high because it is often viewed as the easy way out... instead of trying to figure out the problems and work on them (often deep rooted within each person) they walk away.