After a break-up?

org_balla · 04-24-2012, 10:47 PM

So basically, my long time girlfriend and I broke up today. Its really hard for me because she was the one that ended it. I feel hurt, and don't feel like I can trust anyone again. I am wondering how long I should wait before I message/talk to her again. I know this is a long shot, but I do feel like she is still the girl of my dreams and I know that she still love me. Even though she might not be IN love with me, I do know that she still loves me and cares about me a lot. I am wondering what I should do now if I want to win her back? What steps should I take to win her back and what I should do now that I am single, because right now I am feeling alone and hurt.

(we dated for 2 and half years)

org_balla · 04-24-2012, 11:16 PM

Any help would be nice at this point. Really feeling low and alone

Davi · 04-24-2012, 11:56 PM

One suggestion for you:
Leave her for sometime, if she comes back, she is yours unless she was never yours........

Jellybeans · 04-25-2012, 07:58 AM

Do not reach out to her. You need to go completely no contact. She dumped you. Move on and do not contact her at all WHATSOEVER.

org_balla · 04-25-2012, 10:48 AM

I understand that I'm not suppose to contact her for a while. But we both want to maintain a "friend" relationship in case both of us decides in the future to get back together. That's why I'm wondering how long before I should msg/talk to her so that we can keep a friendly relationship because that is what both of us want but neither of us wants to mess that up. And I do feel like maybe in the future we will get back together, please help.
Thanks TAM

A Bit Much · 04-25-2012, 10:51 AM

Let her come to you.

Again, she broke up with YOU. Don't call, don't text, don't email... no contact. If she wants to talk to you she'll get in touch.

Question...

Was the breakup because of the parent and cultural difference situation?

Jellybeans · 04-25-2012, 12:10 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by org_balla

I understand that I'm not suppose to contact her for a while. But we both want to maintain a "friend" relationship

You can be friends with someone you're in love with.

It doesn't work.

Look, she axed you, dumpe dyou, didn't want you, chose to end it with you.

That is the truth.

So fall back.

If you have any respect for yourself, DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT contact her.

Read this... great advice:

10 Core Breakup Boundaries That Every Person Should Live By | Baggage Reclaim