Should I be worried?
Now i know this has been discussed time after time but I just need some advice from my point of view. My wife and I have been together for 8 years, married for 4 we are both 28 and have a 2 yr old son. I would love to say every year has been great but we've had so many ups and downs I lose track of the good times. Now in the past three years, ive been in and out of hospitals because of some major health issues, and obviously i've missed out on a lot of work. She supported me through the majority of my illness but towards my recovery I slipped into a major depression. I was virtually emotionless for 3 months. By this i mean i actually stayed at my friends house and told her I just needed to be with friends. She was extremely upset and overly loving towards me during the time i didnt want it, she told me she only needed me and she didnt need to go out with friends. I never cheated on her and i never would but for obvious reasons she was a wreck. That was a year ago and i recovered and learned it was the medication that i was on that caused me to feel that way, because once i stopped it i went back to being very emotional towards her.
Now we've never been the type that goes out to bars or drinks a lot, but lately ive noticed that shes been wanting to go. She will just send me a message saying I'm going out for a drink with so and so from work, yet that drink takes 2-3hrs. I know i am a jealous person, but only because our relationship isnt very physical. However, i try to express my concerns to her and she just lashes out at me calling me and ******* and shes been working her ass off while ive been sick and doing ****. She has friends that i know and trust, yet she only wants to go out with her work friends. I'm a cop and ive been turning down the guys for years at work because I just dont think its the right thing to do in a marriage. I hang out with mainly 2 people that shes known for our entire relationship and they are just as close as we are. However, its like when i try to bring up, well why dont you hang out with these people that i know, instead of people i've never met. I know it may sound unreasonable to an extent, but this is just the way i treat things. I have never gone out with a group of guys she didnt know. I just dont know what to do anymore. What do you guys think?