Asking, not accusing, this question LOL. If you hadn't been able to conceive again, would you have sought out any way possible to have a child, including leaving him and being impregnated by someone else? Would you risk losing your husband to have that biological child?
I think a byproduct of this thread is the fact that it really does depend on whether or not you are the one unable to produce children.
NO, I would NOT have left my husband but ...had his sperm count been the issue.... I would have gotten donor sperm, Oh yes, that would have been easy, and he wouldn't have minded... Yes, we talked about that. But he was just fine at 195,000 sperm count with excellent mobilty. Our OBGYN told us our Post Coiltal test was the BEST he ever seen in his career. That was pretty neat.
It was more My issue
, after the C-section (they waited to long after my water broke), this caused adhesions to bind up my tubes, like co-webs in my womb, the Laparocopy confirmed this & corrected it..
It is so much harder when it IS the woman.... she generally cares 10 times more than the husband, and makes his life very difficult...most women get depressed.
I was never the type to get depressed... I get MAD. So I would just rant about not being able to conceive, I would outright tell my friends I was jealous, kinda joke with them -what lucky son of B****es they are. I tried to keep a sense of humor, but I was still pissed off. I think all of my friends were relieved when I finally got pregnant again- so they wouldn't have to hear my mouth anymore.
I don't feel I could handle his sperm going in another woman...because I would fear she would want that baby (and she has that right)...and that baby would feel an attachment to HER over me, since genetically it would be hers, and not mine. So a surrogate situation I wouldn't have wanted anything to do with.
It is very very sad , even angers me that women have to go through this. Today we are breeding a society on casual sex, as many partners as we want!! This is a HUGE Risk for future fertilty..., as some STD's render a woman infertile. And then some of the women who didn't do a damn thing wrong, has these issues, life is just not fair. STD's That Cause Infertility