When you marry somebody with children, are these things not thought about, because thought about and taken on board properly, taking on kids and deciding to love them unconditionally along with your partner, you dont get 6 or 7 years down the line not being able to stand them!
My Husband could be described as a "mummys boy". However the result of his close relationship with his mum is that he respects women, he respects his wifes mother in law regardless of her faults and his views on parenting are near perfection. On the other hand my own mother decided that her needs were above mine as a child and her relationships were priority not my feelings. I had a very difficult time indeed, and when I was going through the horrible chore of growing up ( the worst times being from 17 - 22) She was to wrapped up in how her partner would feel, or did feel about things to do what her job was and be the mother I needed her to be ( She used to have to sneak food out the house for me when I fell on hard times to avoid a huge argument with her partner, thats just one example of many ) It was horrible and I felt so rejected, and at 31, I still do.
Your mum should embrace whatever you are,A perfect Son and Husband or a Retarded Monkey, the fact he is behaving like the latter is HIS fault! and bears no relation to wether his mum was "too dedicated" You are responsible for your own behavior, and yes your upbringing can create obsticles it should never be used as a reason.
Which says you are in fact... going off a personal experience and stating your opinion... as am I!
He isn't the one that left... She did! When her sons decide to go off and get married do u believe for 1 second that they will think twice about marrying a person that their mother despises! Probably Not!
As far as embracing the retarded monkey... 2 other children were neglected by her sorry @$$ because she failed to instill a little thing called common sense in him... so she sucks as a grandmother as well! I will not let my child nor any one else's child manipulate my life! I am there to love, feed, cloth support and nurture... as long as she is safe... I don't have to obey!
BTW..A momma's boy is not always a sign of his respect for women, because my husband has had no qualms about hitting nor degrading women with his domestic violence charge on his ex wife.... A RETARDED MONKEY!
I am not one who felt I had to be nursed my whole life by my mother to feel loved... I was happy when my mother was happy!
The children I took as my own even before my husband and I married had a very good life with me Their mother was physically and horribly verbally abusive! I spent time that their parents didn't and they hung all over me and loved me! We would all have girls night together watching movies and laughing, I did their laundry, cooked special meals, gave them special birthdays, taught them to drive... u name it! They got older and played everyone against each other! Found out later the mothers husband who was a cop was molesting them... but where did they run back to...their mother who is an embezzling felon! After me fighting for so long to get them out of a bad situation these choices left me and my husband at constant battle and they bashed me to in laws... who know I was the only one there for them and was very good to them! Like I said... nothing you can do will make them care for you! You don't necessarily have to be crappy and it doesn't matter how much of a relationship you have with them... been there done that!
Maybe it should be written in the vows That one should love, honor and obey the persons children and better not say a thing when they cause constant problems.
People don't come with signs or choices would be easier.