all4her

Been feeling not well at work lately, very tired, worn down, so went to my Dr to see what was up. I got a call this afternoon about my bloodwork. Turns out I have Hep-c. The ONLY way I couldve gotten it was from a contaminated needle/transfusion while I was in the bolivian hospital for typhoid.

I called my gf who was running an errand and told her. She came right home and comforted me. I was stunned and horrified, yet something else to battle another illness....one I can possibly never ever recover from...

She told me she's going to get tested today and I better come and she will be really pissed if i dont. I told her I was just diagnsed an hour ago and sitting in a clinic isnt my top place I want to be right now....but that I will go to support her...how can I say no, not in the mood b/c I got diagnosed wtih this potentially fatal thing, even tho theres a shot you may have it too?

We've never shared needles, sex is fairly clean, shes concerned about the times shes shared a toothbrush with me.

Anyway, she says theres a place and gets the address. I begin to ask general questions about the clinic, and asked her to call them to make sure she has all the info she needs. She says no. I say Why?

she says "I dont want to know, it will just stress me out" so I laugh and say ok....we all have our way of coping....

After wondering lost in the city for the past half hr we find the clinic in a shady part of town next to a liquor shop and tattoo parlor (not where u wanna be when u find out u have hepc) with homeless people shouting and sitting everywhere on the stoops.

We walk into the building and there are like 5 clinics. I ask what the name of the clinic she wanted was...

I dont know....she says....

WTF u dont know the name of the clinic??? No. She doesnt.

So she aims around knocking on locked doors until someone tells us where to go. We go and find its closed and locked as well and the hours on it are "different from the website".

YES. She didnt know the ****ing name of the place. Didnt get the right info. Sent me on an 1 hr long drama filled goose hunt for her literally right as im still stunned by my diagnosis.....and for NOTHING..

I am so angry right now. I am so upset. I feel so alone. I went and asked to be in bed alne and she wouldnt let me lie there alone and said "I have a right to be here" so I left and am sitting on the couch while shes in the bed moping....

I am so upset. The treatment (best case scenario here) will last me 6 mnths to a year w/ flu like symptoms....

and no she has nojob yet. This time she had one for 2 days and quit. We have spit finances and split up the savings but its become worrysome b/c she has evolved to quite like not having to ask anyone and blowing money like crazy while bragging "its my money i can do what i want w/ it" while she has no job to bring in more once that money (that lets be honest is mine bc i saved it) will be gone....

I am so worried. and scared. and just sad. I dnt know why i expected anything else. I just did...

lovelygirl

She needs to become more responsible and find a damn job!!!
I thought she was going to change and improve after all you've been through.

And wow!!! You asked her to be in bed alone and she acted like a capricious child by not accepting your request?
She sounds so disrespectful as well!!!
Instead of supporting you she keeps on being selfish!

lovelygirl

double post.

Hope1964

Read your other posts. And you are with this chick because........................................... ......???????????????????????????????????????????? ??????

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all4her

I mean how can i be alone now??? Who will take me in during my treatment? My parents have no money and can hardly support themselves, i have to keep my job to keep my insurance....

PBear

It doesn't seem like your GF is exactly a pillar of support, though...

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Hope1964

At least if you're alone you only have yourself to worry about. She isn't going to offer you any support!!! All she's going to do is drag you down!!!

Get rid of the weight around your neck before it drowns you!!

BTW I know someone with hep c. I don't know a lot about it but I do know she's had it for at least a couple years and she is doing well - holds a full time job, goes to the gym frequently, has lots of energy. I hope you are able to successfully battle this thing.

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totamm

You might have given her a fatal disease, she's all messed up in the head about maybe contracting it, and you are getting pissed off at HER for messing up some directions and office hours?

Wow

that_girl

My stepmother passed away from HepC and her husband never caught it. They were married for 14 years and she got HepC from heroine use in the 80s, 20 years earlier.

I hope she doesn't have it...and I'm sad you do. take care of yourself.

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Homemaker_Numero_Uno

My older son's father has Hep C, he is alive and ticking. Got it from living in China, who knows doing what whether from medical or dental care or ???. Swimming in Hong Kong Harbor probably didn't help much. Life in itself is fatal, some people carry fatal diseases and have no clue, others walk down the street not knowing they are about to be hit by a dump truck or a logging truck, or sit on a swing on a tree and have a branch fall on them, or die from a brain hemorrhage. You have info, info = power. My guess as epidemiologist is that you will pass from something other than Hep C. Don't get so focused on the Grim Reaper you can see, it's not the only game in town. Knowing death is always a dance, grab ahold and manage your health that is the best anyone can do. Make sure you live each day, that is what everyone does, except for the spiritually blind.

Your girlfriend doesn't really sound employable, she has skills of mismanagement and poor interpersonal relationship habits. She could probably do okay as a repo girl. What with knocking on doors and just being generally rude and insensitive.

I'm sure she has her allure, no judgement there. A girlfriend is a girlfriend until she's not. And attitude can be helpful dealing with the world if not always at home.

Uptown

All4Her, please relax and stop over-reacting. You almost certainly are going to be fine, but you will have to take it easy for a while until you get your strength back. I had HepC when I was in my 20's and, when you catch it early like I did, the prognosis for getting well is excellent. I did follow up tests about ten years later and found it had been completely cured.

Granted, this disease can be fatal. Indeed, about 1 - 5% of people with chronic hepatitis C eventually die from cirrhosis or liver cancer. Those folks, however, are people who don't catch it early and, as a result, suffer liver damage for years. That group also includes folks who catch it when elderly and have weak immune systems. See http://health.nytimes.com/health/gui...prognosis.html.

Your HepC problem pales in comparison to your GF problem -- but I will write about that in your other thread.

all4her

thanks I know Im probably over-reacting but im just going through this for the first time, found out hours ago, and my head is still spinning from not knowing anything about the illness....

Im also moving cross country at the end of this summer and was supp to be working 50 hrs a week to save this summer, you make plans and god laughs...

Uptown

I understand. When I first found out about my HepC, I over-reacted too. So, in chiding you above, I was not trying to beat up on you but, rather, just help calm you down.

I am also trying to divert your thinking to other issues. As you must know very well by now, having Aspergers can make you obsess and over-focus on one subject at a time. Although that focusing ability can be a blessing in many situations (as it was to great success with Einstein), it can make you blow a personal problem all out of proportion if you don't take steps to do some self-calming. Take care, All4Her.

sinnister

I gotta agree with totamm, I don't know what your relationship is like with this woman but if your post is any indication of the way things are I'm on her side.

You might have GIVEN HER hep C and you're completely focused on yourself??? The womans mind is probably all over the place right now and she did nothing to get the disease except be with you.

You might want to tone down the whoa-is-me and comfort the woman you may have infected.

Uptown

Sinnister, if some of us seem slow to sympathize with the GF in this thread, it is because we've read All4Her's other threads where he describes her behavior as consistently controlling, abusive, immature, and very selfish.