JamesB7

I need some type of advice on constant issues with my wife.
She is ALWAYS finding something to complain about !! The latest was today she complained that I was smiling at the person I was paying a bill to and I shouldn't do that If there's a comment on any of my social networks she has a problem with she asks me to delete it or she does it herself. She doesn't want me to talk to any of my female via messenger so she deleted them all.
If we go somewhere special she usually asks if I took an ex there before. She asked all types of info about my exes and yet if the place or where they are from comes up she gets upset.
I've never cheated on her and I don't thinks she's ever done it to me either or has the intention but I'm getting tired of this day after day !!!
To add to it, I'm always the one doing nice stuff for her, taking her places, taking her to dinner etc I keep trying to be romantic as she's told me that she can't be romantic and doesn't know how and maybe one day she would be.
So it's VERY frustrating doing all I could for someone who always complains with everything I do

eowyn

Can you give some more background...

How long have you been married?
How long have you been together?
How old are you and how old is your wife?
Is this your first marriage?
Is this your wife's first marriage?
Do you have kids?

Looks like your wife is controlling and you seem to be pretty soft. Maybe you need to be a little tough on your wife. Have you tried to tell her that she needs to stop controlling you over little things?

KathyBatesel

James, your wife sounds very insecure and highly controlling. If you want to not be controlled, you'll have to learn to set and uphold your boundaries in a way that doesn't get controlling back.

I've written two articles you might share with her. I don't know if they'd do any good or not without a lot more info from you about the overall situation, but you can check them out if you'd like...

Men Need to Feel Needed

Rules of Reciprocation: Give and Take in Relationships