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Hi, My husband and i have been married for 2 years. No kids at the moment. My question is " Is it okay for my husband to chat with other women and cyber sex with them" He says that that its just merely fun an entertainment for him. I know that this is just fun for him coz he is homely person. Work and back and only goes out with me(Weekend or weekday for dinner)
Also, My husband likes going for massage. He goes once every month and usually takes the "special massage" where the massuer massages his private area. He told me before we got married that he tried it once but now i seem to figure it out that he is going. Is this also normal for guys? I am not sure if this is just for fun again? Please any guys out there please give some advice?
It is not ok for your husband to cyber sex with other women. If it were ok with you you wouldn't be asking the question. Cyber sex is still cheating and you should not allow it unless you are ok with agreeing to an open marriage.
Hi, My husband and i have been married for 2 years. No kids at the moment. My question is " Is it okay for my husband to chat with other women and cyber sex with them" He says that that its just merely fun an entertainment for him. I know that this is just fun for him coz he is homely person. Work and back and only goes out with me(Weekend or weekday for dinner)
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Originally Posted by Melancholy84
Also, My husband likes going for massage. He goes once every month and usually takes the "special massage" where the massuer massages his private area. He told me before we got married that he tried it once but now i seem to figure it out that he is going coz i hae checked his handphone and found that he had call the spa. I assume he called to make the appointment and he goes out a few hours after the call has been made. Is this also normal for guys? I am not sure if this is just for fun again? Please any guys out there please give some advice?
YOUR HUSBAND IS CHEATING ON YOU!!! THIS IS NOT OK!! TELL HIM TO STOP NOW OR PUT HIM AND HIS SH1T ON THE CURB!!!!
SORRY but I do not allow for sh1t in my house bullsh1t included.
You are the only person who can decide what you can live with.
I would not tolerate either of these activities if he were my husband. There is no excuse for them and it is a choice he is making instead of working on how to have a more satisfactory sex life with you.
How would you describe your sex life? Would you say that you meet each others' needs, or is it one sided (he doesn't meet your needs, or you don't meet his). Often, cyber cheating leads men to lose interest in the bedroom, and it can take over their lives.
Please, no one flame me, I am just trying to understand what role sex plays in their marriage. It is not a cause in his choice to cheat, but it can give some insight into their dynamic.
Back to the "spa": just what body parts does the masseuse use for these 'private area body massages'?
Peuh! Your husband is paying for sexual favors from othe women. This is blatant disrespect for the marriage. But he did tell you about it, and you don't seem to have had a problem with it up until now, so I really don't know what more to tell you.
Talking is one thing, cybersex... no way. That is unhealthy for a marriage, especially if you mind. It shows a complete lack of respect for you, and a husband should have his sexual needs met by his wife if the marriage isn't open (though personally I think open marriages are playing with fire.... or maybe a howitzer).
Hi, My husband and i have been married for 2 years. No kids at the moment. My question is " Is it okay for my husband to chat with other women and cyber sex with them" He says that that its just merely fun an entertainment for him. I know that this is just fun for him coz he is homely person. Work and back and only goes out with me(Weekend or weekday for dinner)
He is a homely person? Oh, you mean he is introverted. Well these types of activities are not heatlthy for him. He has some real social challenges.
Maybe not silence of the lambs creepy yet but he is young right?
Most people would consider this cheating.
Chatting on FB with a friend about the weather is one thing.
Having cyber sex with someone else is a tad different.
I personally see this as cheating. But what have your guys agreed to? Is it ok for you to cyber sex with random guys in the net? Do you have a webcam show you put on for these guys?
Also, My husband likes going for massage. He goes once every month and usually takes the "special massage" where the massuer massages his private area. He told me before we got married that he tried it once but now i seem to figure it out that he is going coz i hae checked his handphone and found that he had call the spa. I assume he called to make the appointment and he goes out a few hours after the call has been made. Is this also normal for guys? I am not sure if this is just for fun again? Please any guys out there please give some advice?
So he gets a happy ending huh?
It is not normal for a married man to have sexual activities with a woman not his wife. that said some couples have open marriages.
Do you get massages with happy endings? Do you go to a spa, get naked and have another maked person on top of you massaging your body?
Is hubby ok with this? Then again he may want to watch.
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SH1T ON THE CURB!!!! 
