05-08-2012, 02:34 PM
Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: Long Island
| | Re: is your spouse your friend?
Originally Posted by lonelybeeber
i wish my husband was my friend like all fo you say. i dont know how to get him to be my friend. he is never there to listen to me. he falsl asleep when i talk to him, or findssomething else like playing with a cat or a commercial to laugh at more important. he never wants to spend time with me. his idea of showing me he loves me is pinching my boob, or slapping my bottom. i tel lhim what will make me happy, and he believes he doesnt have to do them because we are married, and to him married means you have to love them no matter what so why try to make anything good. does anybody have any advice to how i can try to get him to realize he isnt my friend?
Beeber, it's good you asked and that shows your ready to learn. A lot of young married people don't look to find ways to help themselves. Yes there is something you can do. You will have to work at it. Take the time to read and learn about what a good relationship looks like. Then give it a try. A start, if I may recommend, is a book called "The Five Love Languages". it has some simple tools, that may help you. There are others but that's a start. Good Luck