light rain

I have not chosen wisely.

Apparently I'm not a good judge of character, and really only see the positive aspects of people. When my wife and I were dating we had issues, and I guess I was blind to the signs I should have seen, and again I focused on the positive aspects only. This foolish behavior lead me to ultimately making a poor choice for a spouse.

This is not to suggest I'm perfect, but I know myself to be a loving, caring, affectionate, compassionate person that truly cares about people, and a often put others feeling before my own. So how did I end up marrying a person that is cold, self centered, angry, bitter, refusing to ever take responsible for her actions, blaming everyone else, never ever saying "I'm sorry", or ever admitting she could have ever make a mistake. She's great at dishing out the criticism, but can never take any from others, no matter how constructive. She has no friends.

The thing that hurts the most is that she is not like this with just me, but everyone, including our children! We have three of the sweetest kids, it kills me how she can be this way to them.

I love my wife for giving me my children, but OMG, you gave birth to these children, can now please be nice to them!

Please excuse the venting, but I do feel better now.

livelaughlovenow

Have you tried talking to her? Or recording the way she talks to the kids and playing it back for her?
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light rain

I have small clips of audio recording, I should really capture more.
But letting her listen will only bring on a argument, and here refusing to ever take responsible for her actions, and somehow blaming me for he whole thing.

It's really as lost cause, we have been together for 15 years, and have had MC with two different therapists over the years, and noting every changes.

And with all the other issues, many of them deal breakers, this is going to end.