Re: My unconventional marriage
Honestly Nova, it seems you've chosen this lifestyle, are happy with your choice, and have convinced the women, particularly your wife, in your life that this is the best road for your family.
I don't think you're going to accomplish much here. People on this site tend to be very closed off to a lot of fringe activity, and this is about as fringe as you can get. Your reception here will not be a warm one from most of these people.
A lot of these posters are people who have dealt with infidelity. Your poly lifestyle started off founded on a lot of lies, cheating, infidelity, and pain. Most are not going to be able to ignore the foundations of a thing, or accept that something so ugly has transformed into something you consider beautiful.
This world revolves around you. The women aren't "allowed" to have multiple partners, and you're not willing to allow another man into this poly relationship. You sacrifice very little. Meanwhile this all started because your wife was sick, foolishly gave her blessing to sleep around in front of her face, and all your actions since then have been about supporting YOUR needs. This isn't a true poly situation in that it's totally focused on whatever choices you make, and all others are expected to adapt. YOUR wife. YOUR girlfriends. YOUR house. That's a very tough pill to swallow.
But you didn't create this life in a vacuum. For whatever reason your wife married a man she knew wasn't monogamous, and she's stuck by you. That is her choice, and she has to accept the consequences of that. Your girlfriends seems to be perfectly fine with having trespassed on a marriage, and is now literally apart of that marriage. There doesn't seem to be a lot of functional choices coming out here. All of you seem to be really crippled in some way.
Good luck. I mean that. I don't believe in mindlessly attacking people. You could be, in other ways, a great person, even if I strongly disagree with your choices. I hope, in the end, there is peace, love, and some kind of true enlightenment for all of you. For your sake, and the kids'.
Last edited by jaquen; 06-02-2012 at 01:57 PM.