Scaredhusband1

My wife and I have been married for ten years on June 1. We have been having a rough time the past few weeks and now I think she is out cheating on me. I know she has been texting with a couple guys she knows and she has never lied to me about it. She told me last night she is going out with her friend that we will call Shelley. I thought something was up so I logged into our account for our cell phones and found the number she has been texting telling me it is Shelley. I logged into her facebook and looked at Shelley's infor and the number wasn't her so I looked at the guy's and it was his. She said she texted Shelley right befor she left to see where they were going but the only number texted today is the guys. I don't know what I am going to do if she is having an affair. I want to call her just to see where she is but I know that would make her mad. Please someone help me figure out how to get through this. We have a 15 year old daughter that I dont' want to go through what I did as a child with divorced parents but can a marriage last after someone stepping out and having sex with someone else.

lisab0105

Call him and ask for your wife....
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the guy

Do not confront her until you have proof!
Can you aford a PI?
You will needa keylogger, sync her cell to the computor, get (2) VARs and a GPS....for starters

Scaredhusband1

I thought about that

Scaredhusband1

To guy I am disabled and fighting for disability and there is no way I can afford a PI>

the guy

Calling OM will just get you the "we are just friends" and labeled as a controling husband.

You need to get really stealthy her so when you confront you can validate the next step you need to take.

This could go deeper under ground and it will be harder to prove that "they are not just friends"

the guy

Ok, how about the other tools I mentioned?

Scaredhusband1

That is what I am scared about. I even thought about sending her a SMS from yahoo under a false identety telling her I know her and her husband and have seen her with him and am telling her husband but I don't know if that would work

the guy

Getting ready to confront your WW takes work and strenght. You want it to be as effective as possible.

There are proven steps that work in fighting infidelity.

Scaredhusband1

I am not sure how to get those tools

Scaredhusband1

I truly love my wife and am in love with her but I was hurt befor her and I got together from a CHEATING g/f and don't know if I have the ability to go through it again

Shaggy

Not a bad idea. Might scare her a bit.

Does her phone have gos tracking on it, such as find my iPhone? If so have a friend to see who she is there with.

This sounds very bad btw, and it does sound like she is cheating.
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Shaggy

You can buy them at Walmart and bestbuy,

Your disabled, are you mobile on your own?
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the guy

settle down and take the time to think.

You have a good idea, but take a day or two to come up with a plan.

Right now educate your self with regard to catching a cheater.

Your current plan is to risky with out positive results.

"so what some one saw WW and OM kissing" it was just a kiss and then what she tells you she sorry and won't see OM again.

YOU MUST FIND THE EXTENT OF THE AFFAIR TO HAVE AN EFFECTIVE CONFRONTATION.


Again your plan is just OK,,,you can do more investigation.


Does OM have a wife or GF?

Scaredhusband1

Yes I am mobile on my own. But we only have one vehicle and she has it right now

Right now I just feel like crying but I am so numb I can't even muster up the strenght to cry.