what do you guys think of using marriage as a means to help her find employment and further her education?
Honestly? I almost felt like laughing
when I read your post! Not because it's 'hilarious', but because it's BIZARRE!
it is very important to me that she is independent and is able to grow - while with me
I am trying to consider options for her to be successful
i need her to feel like she is moving forward in life
Have YOU spotted the one consistent pattern in the above 3 quotes? It's all about what YOU WANT for HER? She sounds more like a pet project (favorite hobby) than a GIRLFRIEND! What does SHE want???
Guess what? Your girlfriend managed to get college degrees in Russia WITHOUT YOUR HELP. Your girlfriend managed to move to the USA WITHOUT YOUR HELP. I think she can manage to figure out what she can/should do with her future WITHOUT YOUR HELP.
You wanted advice? Here it is! Move YOURSELF to New York, alone. IF
your girlfriend is interested in a relationship with you, SHE WILL COME TO NEW YORK ON HER OWN
. She will line up a job (on her own), she will save her money up (on her own), pack her stuff up, and come to New York. She will find a place to live (on her own). This will give you the added benefit of KNOWING that she is NOT just with you for the 'lucrative career' you're embarking on. This will tell you that SHE is in the relationship for YOU...not what she can get out of it financially/citizenship-wise.
By the way,was all this 'looking out for her' cr*p YOUR IDEA or HER IDEA?